Plans are always up in the air and all over the place, so what might be a round about idea of whats going to happen could quite very easily go tits up, I'm getting back up food shop for a dinner just incase things don't go to plan. Usually we go to my moms, but she never invites us until last minute, or she just assumes were going never really asks, and then if you ask, you usually get ..I don't know if I'm doing a dinner this year so then that puts alternative back up plans on hold because nobody is sure, but if you say you aren't going then you get well your uncle is in his 90's it could be his last christmas and I've already brought the stuff now so nobody ever really knows whats going on. Drives me nuts, particularly with autistic kids who need specifics direct explanations of whats going to be happening. Too much messing around.