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Have you given up on dating?

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CircusMaximus  Male  North Yorkshire
31-Jan-2021 08:31 Message #4805498
I have seen a number of posts where members have stated they no longer want to date.

Are you happier on your own?
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RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire
31-Jan-2021 08:51 Message #4805500
Never say never.
Male
tumbled  Male  Gloucestershire
31-Jan-2021 09:31 Message #4805508
Oh...There's hope for me yet then Raach.......

Only joking....
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terry-aka-Norman_Clegg  Male  West Yorkshire
31-Jan-2021 09:40 Message #4805512
Happier might not be the right word, there's always room for happiness in a persons life, dating though? flippin eck it's hard work and much prefer the chatting and going out without the aim of going further.
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persona_non_grata  Male  North London
31-Jan-2021 10:10 Message #4805528
I'm not actively looking for a date or a relationship but as Raach says ... never say never.
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AndyMacG  Male  the West Midlands
31-Jan-2021 10:24 Message #4805530
Absolutely the same sentiment as you PNG and like you and Raach say, never say never :)





Andy Mac
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Hierophant  Male  East Anglia
31-Jan-2021 10:28 Message #4805533
If and when the restrictions are lifted and we can start living again, meeting people will be my number one priority. I can't wait to socialise.
I know I'm not going to meet anybody on here but there are many other dating sites to try...
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persona_non_grata  Male  North London
31-Jan-2021 10:34 Message #4805536
Why not meet people on here? Probably not those on the forums but there are plenty of other sociable ladies on here.
This is also an excellent time to meet new people online and form friendships which might develop further when we are all socialising again.
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Hierophant  Male  East Anglia
31-Jan-2021 10:41 Message #4805539
Because I don't believe there are plenty on here - I have never believed the rest of the site is buzzing while the forums are dying a slow painful death, I suspect the two go hand in hand.
You only have to look at the suggestions when you log-in - the same few faces have appeared for god knows how long.
The site isn't even modern enough to present you with new suggestions each time to sign in....
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persona_non_grata  Male  North London
31-Jan-2021 10:53 Message #4805544
You sound a bit defeatist Hiero lol. It depends on your definition of plenty. I don't know how many active members are on the site so it might be more accurate to say there are a number of sociable ladies on the site. There's no denying the site needs a facelift. If the present members want it to succeed it might help.
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Hierophant  Male  East Anglia
31-Jan-2021 11:02 Message #4805547
You say defeatist, I say realist lol
I think if you look at most profiles they haven't been touched for months. It's a bit of chicken and egg situation isn't it, you say if we want it to succeed, but surely that's up to the people who run it?
The owners did away with paid subscription ages ago, there must have been a reason for that.....
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persona_non_grata  Male  North London
31-Jan-2021 11:15 Message #4805552
Haha. You're a realistic defeatist.

When I joined the site in 2005 it was free to join but with the option to pay and become an Essential member but I can't remember what the perks were if you paid.

I know we get criticised for saying this but in those early years there were a lot of members and it was a vibrant site. I was on a few sites and this one was by far the best. Looking back I do think the site would have been more successful if it had dropped the forums altogether and concentrated on the dating and friendship.
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Hierophant  Male  East Anglia
31-Jan-2021 11:31 Message #4805556
Absolutely, I joined in 2009 I think it was and there is no other site that I have been a member of for that length of time, that tells you something.
It used to be great fun, I remember many Saturday nights spent chatting with lots of people, but as you say most have gone.
There must be a reason for that, some have sadly died, but most simply drifted away - I wonder why?
The site must have changed and people clearly aren't drawn to it like they used to be.

I paid for essentials a couple of times and can't really remember what you got - the owners I suspect decided it's easier to maintain as a free site.
To my knowledge it isn't linked to a twitter or facebook account as a source of cross-promotion, it's just this site alone.
They must earn a bit from advertising, so there must be some traffic and it's obviously pretty cheap to run - a bit of hosting and occasional domain name renewal and that's about it...
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HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
31-Jan-2021 12:22 Message #4805565
Make an offer to run the site Hierophant. Have the last laugh. LOLOL.

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Hierophant  Male  East Anglia
31-Jan-2021 12:31 Message #4805567
Hmm now wouldn't that be fun?
A new broom and all that....I'd sweep away a few old cobwebs I can tell you.... lol lol
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HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
31-Jan-2021 22:18 Message #4805651
A new broom or Trigger's broom?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LAh8HryVaeY
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capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire
31-Jan-2021 23:14 Message #4805664
better to be on your own than in bad company :)
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HonestBob  Male  the Central region
1-Feb-2021 04:25 Message #4805675
I pretty much have given up on dating yes....

Me and women don't see eye to eye, we just seem incompatible. With so many things that divide us, now this Covid is another....

What can you do/go on a date without wearing a silly mask?

Then there is everything else.... I just want to go to work, come home, eat, lift weights walk dog and sleep.... can't be bothered dealing with fat women, single mothers, women with shit attitudes, sluts, women who want to play games, women who just want entertained at my expense, women who want to act like a poor quality man, yet be treated like a lady!

Too tiresome hehehe

I've became even more pessimistic recently lol
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HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
1-Feb-2021 07:33 Message #4805677
Cant argue with your logic HonestBob. It sounds as if you and women are incompatible LOLOL.
Male
Neros1954  Male  Devon
1-Feb-2021 11:58 Message #4805703
Does anyone ever really give upon finding love. I'm not actively looking for a partner but if a wonderful lady became a friend and we both wanted more!
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Helenuk1963  Female  Gloucestershire
1-Feb-2021 21:34 Message #4805785
I stopped dating after I dated then married someone I met on here :)
I dated some really lovely men on here. Mind you there wasn't as much politics here back then, and there were far more fun and flirty threads.
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Eskimohot66  Male  the West Midlands
2-Feb-2021 01:14 Message #4805812
I totally agree with you ,without a doubt was one of the best years ago,it was buzzing ,but Facebook etc has really hurt this site ,and I agree also that you could leave the site for months come back on and its actually the same ,but im sure there are some lovely women on the site just not as many as there used to be so there's hope for us yet ??
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brisinger  Male  Lancashire
2-Feb-2021 01:24 Message #4805813
I sooo agree Helen.

I've not stopped dating as such but I'm perfectly happy with my creature comforts rattling around in my own bought and paid for house with no baggage to worry about so to speak. It's just me, my marine fish and my bees and I'm quite content. You'd have to pick me up off the floor if I dated someone from this site. They would probably have to message me. Having said that I do sometimes join in the Singles dating Manchester 35-55 UK Facebook Zoom group. You never know, being in my area I might take it more seriously. I wouldn't have to consider a long distance relationship.
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brisinger  Male  Lancashire
2-Feb-2021 01:50 Message #4805814
CV-19 has put so much on hold. Normally I have a busy social life not least going dancing Brazilian Zouk where I've met many lovely people and danced with international stars. I would also normally be going to the Manchester singles dating scene but we've had to backtrack it to Zoom events which makes it all but impossible to go on a date. Then there's the people I meet up with in the local beekeeping society. I thought I would have my life back after caring and planned on doing many things that I couldn't do as a 24/7 carer but none of us had reckoned on the effect of CV-19. Hey, you never know I might just end up as a member of the Hot ex-carers club... ;-)
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Neros1954  Male  Devon
2-Feb-2021 21:59 Message #4805939
It might be like buses. You don't date for ages then three come along together.

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