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Do you know how?

Male
terry  Male  West Yorkshire
23-Nov-2020 15:43 Message #4798759
Do you know how to be romantic? how to behave on a date? or even how to get a date? are you any good at talking to people you fancy?
Male
terry  Male  West Yorkshire
23-Nov-2020 15:45 Message #4798760
Should have added, I'm just nosey, so anyone I've talked to needn't panic.
Male
brisinger  Male  Lancashire
23-Nov-2020 17:19 Message #4798765
I would say that knowing how to be romantic is very individualistic to the person, the time and place. For instance a source of humour can be just as romantic as a candle lit dinner for two.
There could be events such as going to see contemporary dance or the ballet which can be both romantic and stimulating as well as a source of conversation.
When it comes to someone I fancy I often end up going into starstruck teenager mode and am very shy. It's my achilles heel; I find it very difficult to ask someone out.

So there you go if someone fancies me, going to see contemporary dance such as Akram Khan's Giselle is a great ice breaker ;-)
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
23-Nov-2020 17:22 Message #4798766
I think I know this one ... Never use terms of endearment as calling her "mate" shows you feel comfortable with her. Ignore her text messages as you don't want her to think you are petty enough to read texts. If you have to buy flowers make sure they are only a small bunch from the local garage and show her that you are good with money. If you do end up in the bedroom always keep your socks on ... ladies love a guy wearing just his socks.

I've plenty more tips if anyone needs advice :)
Female
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd
23-Nov-2020 18:38 Message #4798772
No and I'd probably think someone was being weird if they tried to be romantic towards me.
Female
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire
23-Nov-2020 20:04 Message #4798778
bet you're a hit with the ladies then, png. ;)
Female
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire
23-Nov-2020 20:13 Message #4798780
In answer to your questions; nope, think so, not a clue, rubbish.
Not sure I now what romance is really. It's different for everyone. For me, it's being on the same wavelength. What could be nicer than spending time with someone you fancy the pants off, who listens, finds your stupid jokes as hilarious as you do, is kind, considerate and attentive. If the feelings are mutual, romance happens naturally. It can't be created artificially.
Female
leogirl  Female  Essex
23-Nov-2020 20:22 Message #4798783
I am very good talking at people I fancy. Trouble is, I fancy only people that are fancyful
For them to be fancyful they have to given it a serious though if they if there is anything we would have in common so that he could or would fancy. Otherwise it would be too much hard work.

Leogirl.
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
24-Nov-2020 08:11 Message #4798795
No success yet MtM. I know the theory but need to put it into practise. :)
Female
RoseyCheeks  Female  Nottinghamshire
25-Nov-2020 17:59 Message #4798927
I think I'm quite a romantic person but one person's perception of that is different to another's. Like plants, some people need a lot more attention than others to thrive!

Best thing I think is to always be yourself rather than trying to create a persona you think they'd like.
Female
Madness102  Female  South Yorkshire
25-Nov-2020 18:09 Message #4798931
Well Png, I hope your 'tips' were tongue in cheek because I can tell that if not, then you have it dreadfully wrong !!

Anywayup, personally I have to fancy the guy sexually to start up any kind of communication, if I don't like the look of him, he says stupid things, he drinks and smokes a lot, then I don't think he is worth the bother. And certainly if he can't be bothered to take his socks off - well !!!
I think I am past caring whether there is a special "someone" out there for me. I'm very happy doing my own thing now. . .
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
25-Nov-2020 22:04 Message #4798948
Haha Madness. My tips were tongue in cheek ... I would take my socks off for the right lady :)
Female
Madness102  Female  South Yorkshire
26-Nov-2020 04:22 Message #4798973
And your glasses ?
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
26-Nov-2020 08:09 Message #4798986
And glasses. Sometimes I wear goggles and miner's helmet with lamp ... but that's a long story lol.

Male
MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire
26-Nov-2020 12:28 Message #4799011
I'm getting a few tips from this thread.
Male
Orson  Male  Tayside
26-Nov-2020 16:02 Message #4799030
One imagines "being romantic" is a subjective matter. One is often referred to as being "sweet" The latter usually means that those who utter that word. Have absolutely no interest in one whatsoever.
Female
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire
26-Nov-2020 18:31 Message #4799055
You sound like my gynaecologist, png.
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
27-Nov-2020 07:35 Message #4799098
Ooeer Minnie I couldn't do that job lol.
Female
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire
27-Nov-2020 13:39 Message #4799124
I bet you could, if push came to shove.
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
27-Nov-2020 14:26 Message #4799128
Oh go on then ... I'll have a bash :)
Male
The_Snow_Covered_Fool  Male  Cheshire
28-Nov-2020 07:31 Message #4799159
Is this Minnie flirting ?????



Chris.
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
3-Mar-2021 14:35 new  Message #4809679
A rare thread of excellent quality.


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