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Love not returned by a friend.

What did you do about it, if anything ?

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Michaelt  Male  Devon
1-Aug-2020 11:55 Message #4788156
Did you ever love a friend, somebody who did'nt love you back, but spoke with you as a friend. ?
Male
zodiac1  Male  Flintshire
1-Aug-2020 13:21 Message #4788167
no
Female
shewolf  Female  Somerset
1-Aug-2020 13:28 Message #4788168
yes I did but it changed when I got married he wanted me then caused so many problems no longer friends
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
1-Aug-2020 13:31 Message #4788169
Unrequited love. Fortunately not.
Female
Aely  Female  Hampshire
2-Aug-2020 21:54 Message #4788322
Not since I was about 18, thankfully.
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
3-Aug-2020 07:43 Message #4788350
Yes Aely although these feelings can happen at any time I think for most of us it was our schooldays or early teens.
Female
Mary  Female  Norfolk
20-Aug-2020 00:18 Message #4790152
Its always tricky changing friendship into a relationship.

Friends are different, and in my opinion should remain so.

I dated a friend a year or so ago, and it ended in disaster.

Not recommended
Male
Michaelt  Male  Devon
25-Aug-2020 12:05 Message #4790725
Mary, Was it their fault or yours ?
Male
Peter1962  Male  Cheshire
4-Sep-2020 16:23 Message #4791469
Yes - I simply accepted it - love has to be two sided..

"A friend you can love (as a friend) is a thousand times better than a lover you're not friendly with"
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Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire
5-Sep-2020 08:47 Message #4791501
I think we must have all been infatuated with someone who was unattainable, at some stage in our lives.
But love? Well, I see love as an active, not a passive thing. The act of loving is what you do for other people, not wanting them or that would be infatuation. That may sound like semantics, but it is an important distinction. Friends are people I love, but may or may not be someone that I am infatuated with. If my friends didn't love me back, they would be demoted to being acquaintances.
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Hierophant  Male  East Anglia
5-Sep-2020 09:38 Message #4791509
Michael take things slow, Lyn just needs a little time.
Maglorian is nothing more than a passing fancy, stay strong my friend!.....
Male
DM8000  Male  North West London
5-Sep-2020 20:46 Message #4791548
Oh yes, then we went to big school and didn't see each other anymore.
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
3-Oct-2020 16:14 Message #4793947
Did you ever love a friend, somebody who did'nt love you back, but spoke with you as a friend. ?

How did it work out for you Michael?
Female
NoSaint  Female  Devon
5-Oct-2020 22:21 Message #4794208
Maybe Michael will let us know.

Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
6-Oct-2020 08:00 Message #4794224
Maybe he only asks questions and never answers questions.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
6-Oct-2020 09:59 Message #4794242
When this post first went up, I was going to write a story about a few occasions where this happened to me.... but it would be very long winded and boring....

Lets just say I have loved a few women, very deeply, and I feel like it was returned.... but they were married and that was the end of that.
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MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire
7-Oct-2020 16:16 Message #4794378
They say the best are already taken.
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
8-Oct-2020 08:22 Message #4794436
The good ones can reappear at a later date. Older and slightly battle worn but wiser.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
8-Oct-2020 08:43 Message #4794439
"They say the best are already taken."

Yes MrQuiet, this would appear to be the case with me. I know two other women just now, who seem absolutely perfect.... but both married. Or am I just a guy who wants what he can't have? lol

"The good ones can reappear at a later date. Older and slightly battle worn but wiser."

Yes... I'd rather her be unwise, if it means she isn't battle worn and aged. HotorWot
Male
Kimjongun  Male  South Yorkshire
1-Nov-2020 18:14 Message #4796579
Battle worn ok,it depend if they won.
Male
Michaelt  Male  Devon
2-Nov-2020 10:23 Message #4796610
NoSaint , You have always come across as sarcastic, even to other people, not just me.

How long have you been Widowed ?


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