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How do you prefer to split the bill on a first date?

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A_man_called_CHIOG  Male  South East London 23-Aug-2019 06:30 Message #4749374
The guy should cough up?
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 23-Aug-2019 07:42 Message #4749379
That's not very enlightened is it? It's 2019, assuming only males date females is so old fashioned and illiberal.
I wonder who pays when two blokes or two women are on a date?...
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 23-Aug-2019 07:50 Message #4749381
Good thinking Hierophant. I have several gay friends and they still argue about who pays the bill. If it’s two lesbians then it’s unlikely to be the guy lol.
mancers  Male  Greater Manchester 23-Aug-2019 09:26 Message #4749390
If she wants to pay, I wouldn’t like to disappoint her.
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 23-Aug-2019 09:29 Message #4749393
"If it’s two lesbians then it’s....."

Probably some random guy who is shamed into paying hahaha

I think 50/50 Is the fairest way, unless one party agrees to burden the whole cost for what ever reason.

I think in 2019 any woman who expects a man to pay for everything needs a good slap, and dragged out of the 1950s.
tsunamiwarrior  Male  Hertfordshire 23-Aug-2019 10:00 Message #4749400
I don't think you are allowed to slap them Bob.

Although we all know you wouldn't actually do that lol.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 23-Aug-2019 10:23 Message #4749404
50/50 spilt, why would it be otherwise? I find it embarrassing if somebody want to pay for me all the time, especially a first date or three, I think it sets a precedent that I'm just another chattel, I don't like the power imbalance.
Greencare  Female  Berkshire 23-Aug-2019 12:47 Message #4749416
Everyone I meet seems much more laid back about this these days. Usually a 50/50 split but if this isn't possible then nobody seems to complain. I recently paid for a guy who had come out of hospital and been unemployed for some time and I was glad to do so. I'm sure he would have done the same and may well do something for me in the future.
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 23-Aug-2019 19:04 Message #4749455
Not answering this its been asked far too many times lol
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 23-Aug-2019 19:11 Message #4749457
Athough we all know you wouldn't actually do that lol.

Do we?
tumbled  Male  Gloucestershire 23-Aug-2019 20:09 Message #4749465
I would never go on a date expecting them to pay.....

I would also never insist on paying it all if they offer to pay for certain things....It would generally sound much too controlling...

Take it as it comes....but I would pay the lot if the situation needed it....
Seasons-Greetings  Male  Essex 23-Aug-2019 20:40 Message #4749474
If they're not going to be offended (and presumably by the time it comes to it you would've figured that out) no harm in offering to pick up the bill.
You can always say they get it next time.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 23-Aug-2019 21:37 Message #4749480
Don't understand the fuss. Purely down to those involved.
Colonel_Blink  Male  Buckinghamshire 24-Aug-2019 08:15 Message #4749492
It seems natural that whoever does the inviting offers to pay but 50/50 is always good. My pet hate is people who go through every item of the bill pointing out who had what and querying everything.

HonestBob  Male  the Central region 24-Aug-2019 13:05 Message #4749519
"I don't think you are allowed to slap them Bob."

No? Aw dear..... there goes my ambition to be a Christian Grey type of guy who gets all the women lol

"Although we all know you wouldn't actually do that lol."

No, of course not. I'm a lover not a slapper!
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 15-Sep-2019 23:53 Message #4752819
If you go on a number of dates this is something which will crop up. It shouldn’t be a big deal but it is to some. I offer to pay. If they want to pay half that’s fine.
Goody2shoes  Male  Nottinghamshire 15-Sep-2019 23:58 Message #4752823
Yes, they pay the first, then you pay the next.


Good memory hot one.
bella111  Female  Devon 16-Sep-2019 00:30 Message #4752833
If I am asked out for a meal they pay, if ok I would pay for a meal or equivalent, and maybe in time lunch or dinner at home. But luckily I meet men who are gentlemen and have to be insistent to pay anything.
MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire 16-Sep-2019 06:16 Message #4752837
I don’t mind if the lady wants to pay but I’ll always over to pay half

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