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What do you like to talk about on a first date?

Well this is a dating site (2)

A_man_called_CHIOG  Male  South East London 23-Aug-2019 06:29 Message #4749373
Yourself? General subjects?
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 23-Aug-2019 07:55 Message #4749383
Learn about each other and avoid politics or religion. Even on a friendly little site like mse those subjects soon turn nasty so what’s the point.
mancers  Male  Greater Manchester 23-Aug-2019 09:23 Message #4749388
The first thing that pops up.
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 23-Aug-2019 09:38 Message #4749395
Well I'm kind of guilty of going all out, just to see how our minds match up....

Do you have kids?
Do you want kids?
Are you, or do you have a reputation of being a slut?
Is there any pic/videos of you naked, or having sex out there that may come back to haunt you?
Are you in debt?
Would you take the man's name?
How are you domestically?

As there is not much point wasting each other's time if I have no inclinations of starting a relationship with her if we don't agree on things or have different values.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 23-Aug-2019 10:27 Message #4749406
Its so long I wouldn't know.
Cautious1954  Female  Berkshire 23-Aug-2019 12:51 Message #4749417
Raach. Politics on here is like all out warfare. The last guy I chatted to on a date we talked a lot about holidays and the holidays we would like in the future.
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire 23-Aug-2019 12:58 Message #4749418
I was on a date some years ago and he spent the whole lunchtime giving me the story of his life. At the end of it, he said "well I think we have loads in common, shall we meet again". He was most offended when I said " I dont think I have anything in common with you, but thanks for the life story".
MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire 23-Aug-2019 16:45 Message #4749434
I'm the opposite to HonestBob. I like to chat and perhaps a little banter but get to know each other slowly not firing lots of questions. Agree with Raach that you shouldn't discuss politics. Various friends and past girlfriends have had a lot of different political views and many disagreeing with my own but that's not a barrier if you can have adult discussions but it rarely works on a first date.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 23-Aug-2019 18:59 Message #4749446
I don't know that I agree with you there MrQuiet, it may be better to get those things out of the way early on, I find that in the early stages of a relationship you're both more willing to go easy with eachother, maybe out of politeness than anything else but these things can become real causes of conflict later in a relationship. I think I'd want to know from the off if someones going to have problems with my multicultural, anarchic family. Just the same as I'd want to know if they were allergic to animals or just didn't like them, because that would be a non starter for me.
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 23-Aug-2019 19:00 Message #4749447
erm………………...just stuff...….lol
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 23-Aug-2019 19:04 Message #4749454
The first thing that pops up.

ooer, missus!
tumbleweed  Male  Gloucestershire 23-Aug-2019 20:23 Message #4749466
No set agenda.....some of the stuff will be natural...some not....

Making each other laugh is good....but don't try and be a stand up comedian...

If you're enjoying each others company, then that usually wins through...
Colonel_Blink  Male  Buckinghamshire 24-Aug-2019 18:40 Message #4749547
As long as the conversation flows I like talking about anything. Good advice tumbleweed don’t try to be a stand up comedian as it can be tiresome to others even when you think you’re being hilarious.
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 24-Aug-2019 20:46 Message #4749554
My last date never stopped talking but I think she was nervous. She was an interesting lady.

Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 24-Aug-2019 22:34 Message #4749573
I like to split it down the middle.. I talk about me then I let her talk about me...
Templar2013  Male  South East London 24-Aug-2019 23:22 Message #4749578
I’m never short of something to say but I can listen too.
tsunamiwarrior  Male  Hertfordshire 25-Aug-2019 14:43 Message #4749630
Holidays is usually a safe subject and easy to talk about with strangers. Hopes for the future is good a bit later.

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