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terry  Male  West Yorkshire
11-Aug-2019 07:10 Message #4748302
What do we mean by that?
Does life have borders? birth and death, would you call those borders?
How many different borders are there?
Are borders a good thing? (as opposed to a sometimes neccessary thing) or a not so good thing?
Is your front door a border line? or if you have an area outside, is the gate a border line?
Personal space, is that a border?
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
12-Aug-2019 09:13 Message #4748417
Borders do mean different things to different people and there are various types of border.

Most of us have a personal border. Our personal space. Our front door perhaps. We wouldn’t want anyone wandering in and out or having a nap in our bed after helping themselves from the pantry.

It would be nice to think borders are unnecessary but if a country didn’t have borders then most criminals and villains would take up residence in the “best” country while travelling without restrictions to smuggle or commit crimes with no boundaries to cross all over the world.

If we didn’t have the police and armies then we would have absolutely no freedom whatsoever because violent criminal gangs would soon be running the country with a quick death for those opposing them.

Borders and boundaries are necessary.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd
12-Aug-2019 11:57 Message #4748430
Is there a difference between boundaries and borders?

I think criminals do that already HoW.

Other cultures have a totally different idea about boundaries and borders than us, Ancient Roman houses had no windows facing out on the street side and door guards and heavy doors, but once you were inside the house pretty much everything was open with one room leading off another. The Chinese seem to have no concept of personal space or privacy, we had a Chinese cleaner at uni, who would come along and unlock all the doors to everybody's rooms, wedge the doors open and then dispear for an hour or two. She would also invite people into the rooms she was supposed to be cleaning to look at someones possessions, she absolutely didn't get that her behaviour was unacceptable in this country and culture and to the people of other cultures who lived in the same building. Personal space, privacy and personal possessions seem to be suspicious activities where the Chinese are concerned. Indians get freaked out by the notion that people might want some time alone, they get really worried about you and want to you join in with what evers being done, usually eating, talking, making stuff, arguing and bickering.
Witheflow  Male  North Yorkshire
12-Aug-2019 19:11 Message #4748465
Borders are ego based. Cave man bordered off his cave and the area around, to make it his. Rome did so when it captured an area of importance. Kings still do, to denote their land. Citizens do to denote theirs. It's primitive behaviour, that is fueled by individualism and status. People identify their worth, with commodity fetishism. A primitive anchor. holding us back from our lessons of progression.

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
NotHermit  Male  Derbyshire
12-Aug-2019 19:22 Message #4748466

Cavemen lived in caves to avoid sabre tooth tigers etc.
So they chose a small entrance and blocked it off.

The blocking also kept the Jehovas witness's out.
tumbled  Male  Gloucestershire
12-Aug-2019 19:33 Message #4748468
Borders between countries can be a safe thing....but equally a lethal thing....

Examples Iraq and Kuwait..and the aftermath of all that invasion stuff...
Witheflow  Male  North Yorkshire
12-Aug-2019 20:00 Message #4748470
Nice one Hermy. But they developed sharp spears and cleared the Sabres eventually. They ventured out, to keep the primates and neighbours away. The Jehovas were their evolved relatives. You time warped at the end.
MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire
12-Aug-2019 21:53 Message #4748474
Borders keep out the enemy whether that enemy is a wild animal or a murderous marauder. It would be nice if we lived in utopia where visitors came to lick your hand or bring gifts and flowers but this is not utopia it is the real world.
NotHermit  Male  Derbyshire
12-Aug-2019 23:24 Message #4748495

You need to go to Creswell Craggs and read the information boards.
Enemies include Sabre tooth, Wooly Mammoth and Giant Rhino.
Greatest fears were Jehovah's and Junk Mail.

Have you ever seen a cave with a letter box?
tsunamiwarrior  Male  Hertfordshire
13-Aug-2019 06:49 Message #4748505
Is there a difference between boundaries and borders?

Maybe it’s a perception but I think of borders as solid and tangible whereas boundaries more flexible and personal.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd
13-Aug-2019 11:38 Message #4748529
Yes you're probably right Tsum, although boundaries seem to also be used in a domestic or non national context, such as our houses having boundary fences rather than borders, unless its flower borders. Conversations like this make me realise again how complicated the English language is and how many variations of context and sometimes meaning one word can have.

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