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Tea total

Must stay strong

mancers  Male  Greater Manchester 30-Nov-2018 21:18 Message #4729844
Well the time has come and I’ve made my decision no more alcohol for as long as possible, it’s been my best friend at times, but my worst enemy at other times, I have done it before for ten years so I can do it again, my drinking mate emigrated to Australia this week so it makes it easier. the only downside is that the pubs charge extortionate rates for soft drinks, shame on them. It’s been 11 minutes since I had a drink and the cold turkey hasn’t set in .
warmundeft  Male  Wrexham 30-Nov-2018 21:38 Message #4729845
Fingers crossed for you mancers, if that's the way you want to go.
p'raps to ease the financial strain, you could per-load on squash or do what some lasses do and slip a small bottle of your chosen beverage into your handbag (the male equivalent I hasten to add!)
NotHermit  Male  Derbyshire 30-Nov-2018 21:57 Message #4729846
Good luck Mancers.
A friend of mine used to say its easy to stop drinking, he has done it Loads of times.
Why not take up a new hobby?
Maybe dress up at weekends or something.
Then you can have a handbag full of coke, and hang around in bars.
Do an afternoon session, go home and have buttered scones for tea.
fosy  Male  Leicestershire 30-Nov-2018 22:25 Message #4729851
when i was on dialysis my body wouldnt tolerate alcohol.

my social life came to an end and i realised it had been based around drinking out, and i found it hard to come to terms with.

i did get used to it,and strangely, after the transplant when i could drink again, i didnt rush down the pub, it was around 3mths before i had a beer again.
tumbleweed  Male  Gloucestershire 30-Nov-2018 22:40 Message #4729853
I hope you get on ok.

Having spent a lot of my early drinking years falling about all over the place, and a lot of excruciating hangovers of the 'never again' variety, especially during my 'sailor' days, I eased up over the last many years.

And now since the heart failure, or the first symptoms of it which started about 3 years ago, although I didn't know it was heart failure for a while, I haven't drank alcohol at all.

I am not sure whether that will be forever or not, I think I could have a little every now and again, according to the nurse, but I haven't felt like it, and it would be a shame to spoil the longest period without alcohol since I was about 18 I mean.
BlinkinLights  Female  South Yorkshire 30-Nov-2018 23:17 Message #4729858
Well, its easy - I have been t-total since birth !! Just drink other stuff - oj, coke (not very good for you), milk (very good for you) bovril or marmite drink, fruit drinks such as Cranberry, lemon, apple, etc. All good for you.
Keep up the good work !!
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire 1-Dec-2018 07:19 Message #4729871
Instead of trying to cut it out altogether why don't you just have one pint per day. Pick a time that you would enjoy this drink then you always have tomorrow to do it again. Maybe then you will cut it out again once and for all.
As you know a lot of alcohol is no good for you. If you are lonely then try and go to these meetups or find something you can do,to ease the boredom.
Look,online to find what is available.
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 1-Dec-2018 08:17 Message #4729877
I'll often have orange squash with soda water which rarely costs much more than £1 per pint. If I am having a meal as well then I ask for a jug of iced water which is free. ;-)
OnlineMSE  Male  Essex 1-Dec-2018 09:25 Message #4729885
Tea total...Must stay strong

Mind you giving up Tea whether it's builders, strong, milky or herbal isn't that difficult when there's coffee to enjoy.
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire 1-Dec-2018 19:10 Message #4729940
Try drinking green tea ( Lidls do a nice one with lemon) It sort of puts you off alcohol a bit and although it takes a couple of days getting used to, I quite like it now, and its very healthy !!!. My other half was told to drink loads of it when diagnosed with Prostate cancer. His readings are now so low, the hospital are amazed.

Also, at the times when at home that yu usually like a drink, have a glass of something else - even water - get into the habit of doing it - you need to get your body used to drinking something at that particular time which is not alcoholic.
mancers  Male  Greater Manchester 1-Dec-2018 19:38 Message #4729941
I don’t think I’m addicted to drink but enjoy going to the pub and socialising, my downfall is the amount I drink when I do go out.
I have other interests so will try and concentrate on them more, I have tried cutting down but it doesn’t work, thanks for your input.
mancers  Male  Greater Manchester 1-Dec-2018 19:38 Message #4729942
I don’t think I’m addicted to drink but enjoy going to the pub and socialising, my downfall is the amount I drink when I do go out.
I have other interests so will try and concentrate on them more, I have tried cutting down but it doesn’t work, thanks for your input.
BlinkinLights  Female  South Yorkshire 2-Dec-2018 00:11 Message #4729951
Well you certainly dont need to drink beer to socialize - I go to the pub maybe 3 or 4 times a week but dont drink alcohol - most people drink soft drinks now anyway, it all changed when the strict drink/driving laws came in.
But you are right, pubs now charge almost as much for soft drinks - well they have to make a profit somehow eh?
mancers  Male  Greater Manchester 2-Dec-2018 08:15 Message #4729957
Glass of coke £2 that’s a no no
Large lime and soda £1 reasonable but takes a bit of getting used to.
Bottle of non alcoholic lager / beer £1:50 don’t see the point.
There again you don’t drink copious amounts of them do you. Lol.

wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 2-Dec-2018 11:22 Message #4729981
I think pubs charge an extortionate amount for soft drinks and it puts people off, they often taste horrible as they come out of taps that mix it from syrup with water and bottled juices are stupidly expensive.
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire 2-Dec-2018 16:15 Message #4730006
I have noticed more people on the pubs round here are drinking coffee or even milk, but we dont have too many real pubs now. They all seem to be restaurants or fancy wine bars or even celebrity restaurants where food cost the earth .Cheapest bottle of wine with a meal recently was £28. I declined it altogether and drank water on principle. Food wasnt the greatest either despite being recommended by Mary Berry
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 2-Dec-2018 17:21 Message #4730008
A lot of places are selling mocktails which are alcohol free cocktails. Very expensive.

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