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Women making the first move...

Does it bother you?

Male
tumbleweed  Male  Gloucestershire 3-Dec-2018 12:23 Message #4730063
I like to show some responsibility, and try and make my play in the johnnies aisle.

ps. It is all so long ago, I think they are called condominiums or something nowadays.
Female
Lulu70  Female  South East London 3-Dec-2018 14:22 Message #4730070
Right, I am actually going to put the supermarket theory to the test.

The next time I spot a mature, single man who floats my boat... I am going to smile and send out my womanly vibes and see what happens...lol
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 3-Dec-2018 14:56 Message #4730073
You will know he is single if you look in his basket and see the following :- high fat ready meal, biscuits, mansize tissues and and some random item like a screwdriver set...
Male
tumbleweed  Male  Gloucestershire 3-Dec-2018 15:09 Message #4730075
If they have some pile cream in their basket, then that might be a good thing, as at least they are trying to get them cleared up, although the downside could be that they might want you to apply it.

Ok, my comments are going steadily downhill now, so I had better stop them, before they get worse. A bit like the piles.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 3-Dec-2018 17:16 Message #4730085
"The next time I spot a mature, single man who floats my boat... I am going to smile and send out my womanly vibes and see what happens...lol "

Instead of smiling at him and hoping he does all the work... why not approach him?

Chances are, you send out your womanly vibes and he misses them, or they aren't strong enough for him to take the risk.

Out of curiosity... if you "Spot a mature, single man..." what about him would make you assume he is single? Is there certain signs men exude when they are single that women pick up on?
Male
The_Snow_Covered_Fool  Male  Cheshire 3-Dec-2018 18:23 Message #4730090
No problem with a lady asking.

Hence why my profile states ... ' A piece of 4 x 2 would be helpful, as I wouldn't have a clue if she was interested '
Well something along those lines..




Chris.
Female
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 3-Dec-2018 19:51 Message #4730095
I don't have any problem with it.
Female
Lulu70  Female  South East London 3-Dec-2018 19:53 Message #4730096
HonestBob... I would approach...after we had exchanged "the look". I don't think I would pounce on him while he was deep in thought, contemplating Asda's own brand v Heinz beans.

However, you pose a very good question...What about him would make me assume he was single?

Well, the lack of a woman with him would be a start.
Then the lack of a wedding ring would be the next clue.

I'm not too sure what the other signs are!
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 19:54 Message #4730098
I followed a bloke in supermarket once...he looked scrummy and smelled gorgeous...…..….in his basket was a bottle of vodka...and fruit...……….ideal I thought...lol.
till he got the till and met up with female and a child that called him daddy...………..
maybe try aldi….lol
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 3-Dec-2018 19:58 Message #4730100
Aldi is full of chavs who barge you out of the way to get to the bargains...that's why I shop there...
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 19:59 Message #4730101
I have never been barged in aldi...lol
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 3-Dec-2018 20:00 Message #4730102
You ain't lived...
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 20:08 Message #4730104
It's been said..lol usually by blokes who want to do really bizarre stuff in bed lol lol
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 3-Dec-2018 20:16 Message #4730105
Bit rich coming from someone who chased a married bloke around a supermarket because he smelt nice and had a bottle of vodka and phallic shaped fruit...

Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 20:26 Message #4730108
I didn't chase him, didn't want to appear desperate...
Male
barney  Male  Surrey 3-Dec-2018 20:27 Message #4730109
I would hang around the booze aisles.
If she loads up her trolley with booze and likes a drink I will look better when she has had a few.
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 3-Dec-2018 20:36 Message #4730110
"I didn't chase him, didn't want to appear desperate..."

That's the man's job... lol

Stop copying my three dots...
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 20:39 Message #4730111
I had dots way before you...………...lol sad git counting them...lol
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 3-Dec-2018 20:45 Message #4730112
Well your chat up technique is certainly well suited for a trip to Aldi... lol lol
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 20:49 Message #4730113
I,ll go on Friday and see...lol ...if ya don't see me online weeelll….wahey...lol
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 3-Dec-2018 20:50 Message #4730114
See you on here Friday then... lol
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 20:55 Message #4730115
Probably, lol lol
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 3-Dec-2018 20:57 Message #4730116
so morrisons Saturday
Tesco sunday
lol
Female
RoseyCheeks  Female  Nottinghamshire 3-Dec-2018 22:42 Message #4730121
I've asked men out before, but based on conversation already going well in messages, and I've usually been pretty sure they were going to say yes before I'd even asked. Does that count? If you don't ask you don't get :-)
Male
TheSarcasticOne  Male  Essex 3-Dec-2018 22:45 Message #4730122
Lulu70,

Not every one wears a ring, so that is not always the best indication.

Now I still wear my wedding ring although I am a widower.

So I would not be approached because I wear a ring, but a mate of mine would be approached as he does not and never has worn a ring.

The basket rather than a trolley would be a better indicator. of status and the products. I bumped it to my brother one day, he had a trolley I had a basket. We had a couple of similar items, he had own brand and I had named brand. My basket came to more than his trolley, single vs family.

. . . . and before anyone waves the sexist flag, this might work for men and women the same way.


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