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Are most single people

too fussy?

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CircusMaximus  Male  North Yorkshire
25-Jun-2020 08:22 Message #4784706
Or is the others who are too fussy to choose them?
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside
25-Jun-2020 08:37 Message #4784707
Both lol
Male
Pboro Trevor  Male  Cambridgeshire
25-Jun-2020 09:08 Message #4784712
Reminds me a meme - a skeleton with the caption - a woman waiting for the perfect man.

Trevor
Male
BOYDEL  Male  Surrey
25-Jun-2020 09:39 Message #4784715
Both WW1/WW2 did a helluva lot to usher in massive societal changes.

Before that many women would go in to "service" for a few short years before marriage and kids intervened - and for most women thereafter they would have done little in the way of paid work other than perhaps a pin money job as say an evening barmaid etc. So a lot of women formerly had no independence especially financially.

WW2 especially ushered millions of women in to war work which paid 2 or 3 times the wages they could formerly earn elsewhere and that massively increased their independence which has grown ever since and rightly so - hence apart from the maternal instinct there is far less financial imperative for women to settle down early in life - and today half of couples avoid marriage altogether whilst half of first marriages end in divorce.

There will be a number of divorced women (not all) who have done quite well financially after the financial settlement and in my personal experience a lot of those are pretty loathe to risk their financial security again unless they meet a wealthy new partner. For others it can be a game of musical chairs with the newly single ones of both gender shacking up sequentially with others.
Female
Andromeda  Female  Berkshire
25-Jun-2020 10:19 Message #4784722
Most of the men and women I know who say they are fussy are kidding themselves and they are less fanciable than they think lol.

Oh dear I wonder if I'm one of those.
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside
25-Jun-2020 10:26 Message #4784726
Lol andromeda lol lol I may be one of them too lol lol lol
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
25-Jun-2020 10:39 Message #4784731
Well I'm certainly VERY fussy and I have VERY high/unrealistic standards..... for todays women.

I'm not sure it fits everyone though. I know people who as soon as they are single, they jump on the first living creature they can to avoid being alone, or being single.

Generally I think womens standards are much higher than mens.
Male
fosy  Male  Leicestershire
25-Jun-2020 11:04 Message #4784733
"I know people who as soon as they are single, they jump on the first living creature they can to avoid being alone, or being single."

i,d second that bob, and i would add that its mainly men who cant live alone so easily as a woman can, imo.
Female
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire
25-Jun-2020 11:21 Message #4784736
I have a male friend who was very fussy - seeking a younger lady, long hair, big boobs, wealthy and submissive..... lol. He is now with someone and very happy....... she is short, fat, not very attractive, but a nice person, and she is very hard up.

The moral is...............
Female
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire
25-Jun-2020 14:03 Message #4784745
Has he got any friends.haha Although i am short but not too fat and hope i have not got really big boobs yeah am hard up but can still cope. Lol

Do you think there is hope for me lol
Male
tumbled  Male  Gloucestershire
25-Jun-2020 14:04 Message #4784746
The moral is......The wealthy big boobed one?
Female
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire
25-Jun-2020 14:04 Message #4784747
Has he got any friends.haha Although i am short but not too fat and hope i have not got really big boobs yeah am hard up but can still cope. Lol

Do you think there is hope for me lol
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
25-Jun-2020 14:20 Message #4784750
" i would add that its mainly men who cant live alone so easily as a woman can, imo."

I think you may be right... but I'd add it may be generational. I think older men may find it harder to live alone than younger ones. I hadn't actually thought of the living with people angle. I was more meaning in the social sense. The people I was talking about live alone mostly, but don't want to go out to parties single, or generally socialise as a single.

Then we have the added social media side of things.... If all your friends are pictured in a group as a couple, and you are the 11th wheel.... Shame!!!
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
25-Jun-2020 15:11 Message #4784758
I'm not fussy but I am particular about the type of lady I fancy. I'm lucky as I enjoy female company and I will often meet up for a coffee and a chat with no other agenda.
I'm a bit anti-checklist .. I really don't like checklists and some are quite unrealistic. I doubt if most of us see ourselves as others see us.

Female
Blue-Poppy  Female  East Yorkshire
25-Jun-2020 15:23 Message #4784763
I think we probably all have unrealistic ideals and ideas of what we want.
Male
brisinger  Male  Lancashire
25-Jun-2020 20:31 Message #4784784
I'm slim, fit, got no kids to worry about, my house is bought and paid for, and I've got a protection Trust to fall back on. I guess the only baggage I have is my epilepsy. I think that it ends up as not just being fussy but also used to creature comforts. I guess if I'm honest I've reached the point where it's got to be someone special and they'd more likely get a response if they asked me out.
Male
brisinger  Male  Lancashire
25-Jun-2020 20:45 Message #4784785
If you were to go off many dating sites a lot of women say that they are looking for a 'tall' man, usually a 6 footer and as I'm a shorty compared to a lot I'd be off their tick list. Personally I don't do tick lists. I'd probably find myself subconsciously gravitating more to a kind person rather than eye-candy or somebody who claims to have a GSOH.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
25-Jun-2020 21:47 Message #4784790
"If you were to go off many dating sites a lot of women say that they are looking for a 'tall' man, usually a 6 footer and as I'm a shorty compared to a lot I'd be off their tick list."

I could be wrong, as I haven't been on the dating sites in many years, but can women select for a height preference? As in they can select to only see men above 6ft?

I remember hearing of a height verification setting where men had to verify their height..... in some way.

As a fellow sub six footer, I think we do better in person.
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London
25-Jun-2020 23:30 Message #4784806
I think Barbie and Ken would do well from checklists lol.
Male
BOYDEL  Male  Surrey
26-Jun-2020 07:38 Message #4784810
Last time I checked the average UK male height was around 5ft 9 - females 5ft 4.

So for every 6 ft tall male there will logically be another one who is 5ft 6 etc

From what I have seen females usually just want someone taller than themselves (wearing heels) and with half of all UK females being shorter than 5ft 4 that should of itself not be a problem.
Female
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire
26-Jun-2020 07:55 Message #4784812
Height is important to some people although I've never understood why myself. I never wear heels so when I have shoes on I'm no more than 5'5". Most men are taller but don't seem a lot taller.
When looking at famous people, actors and singers there are a lot under 5'9" and it hasn't done them any harm.
Being shorter, bigger, taller, thinner are only problems if you are self conscious and worried about it and makes a difference on check-lists rather than in real life.
Male
BOYDEL  Male  Surrey
26-Jun-2020 08:18 Message #4784818
Yes for example Sylvester Stallone is only 5 ft 9
Female
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire
26-Jun-2020 08:29 Message #4784821
Yes and some of my favourite actors. Mark Wahlberg, Tom Cruise and Al Pacino.
Female
NoSaint  Female  Devon
26-Jun-2020 11:19 Message #4784832
My generation wore heels and suffered the consequences. Now it's rare to see a pair of high heels except at social functions and even then flats, trainers and sandals are worn under long dresses. I'm with you on this Raach, why is height so important to some?
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
26-Jun-2020 13:17 Message #4784839
"From what I have seen females usually just want someone taller than themselves (wearing heels) and with half of all UK females being shorter than 5ft 4 that should of itself not be a problem."

Your logic is correct! But we cannot apply logic to womens attitudes to height, not in that way. I'm 5ft9, I've had many women refer to me as short. I had an Irish girl who was about 5ft tell me I was too short for her, I wasn't even inquiring.

If you aren't tall, you are short! There seems to be no middle ground with a lot of women, not all.... but a lot.

I don't grudge women for having huge preferences to tall men, they like what they like, the are entitled to do so. Even if it isn't me. All I ask for is the same respect back.

Then we have the comparison tests.... If a girl has four friends, and her four friends are 5ft5, and their partners are 6ft2 and the first girl in the group gets a boyfriend who is 5ft10, above average..... but well below the height of the group males. She may be concerned that she isn't as good as her friends as she hasn't been able to attract a higher value tall man.

I've got a mate who is 6ft6, a nephew who is 6ft8.... The initial reaction they get from women is golden.

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