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A_man_called_CHIOG  Male  South East London 6-Dec-2019 08:04 Message #4764250
Are you concerned at your new partner, or potential partner’s past? Is it a moral judgement of a few previous partners or hundreds? Is it sexual health issues ?

Do you insist on sexual health checks prior to a relationship?
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 6-Dec-2019 12:05 Message #4764273
Do you insist on sexual health checks prior to a relationship?

Nope.
Female
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire 6-Dec-2019 12:43 Message #4764277
Apart from a lie detector, do any of us know how many sexual conquests anyone has had ??

I don't think many people, would care to admit truthfully to that fact.

Asking someone to have a sexual health check prior to a relationship, is just not realistic.
I think the relationship would end abruptly , there and then.

In an ideal world, we all hope that any potential partners have a clean bill of health in that department, but there is no guarantee that they will.....
male or female.

We just have to rely on trust, like most things in life.
Female
Mary  Female  Norfolk 6-Dec-2019 14:04 Message #4764284
Any sensible sexually active person should be tested every now and then.

It's a simple free test.

I get tested regularly.

You know it makes sense.
Female
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire 6-Dec-2019 16:31 Message #4764299
And does your partner reciprocate ?
And does he have to hand you the proof or vice versa ??

Just curious.
Male
fosy  Male  Leicestershire 6-Dec-2019 17:10 Message #4764305
t53,
"Asking someone to have a sexual health check prior to a relationship, is just not realistic.
I think the relationship would end abruptly , there and then. "

but what about if you met someone you really fancied getting jiggy with, and the feelings were reciprocated, but like me they had no immune system and just wanted to be safe ??
would you still walk away straight away ?
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 6-Dec-2019 18:51 Message #4764313
Yes! Very much so concerned about a partners sexual past. It is probably one of the most, if not thee most important thing about a potential, long term partner.

I couldn't even begin to imagine the shame if I was to settle down with a woman who has had lots of other men, putting their penises into my partner, I wouldn't be able to look myself in the mirror, or hold my head up high as I walk the streets!

Even worse now a days is there is a social media account exploiting, and promoting her sexual history. Even worse yet again, if there are videos or pictures floating about of her in the act! Imagine settling down with a woman, having a house, kids and a nice life, then your loving wife is the girl who was videod giving oral sex to 28 men on a dance floor in Ibiza, or the girl who had multiple strange men at a pool party, just walk up and stick their willies in her..... as it was videod for the world to see! She was Scottish by the way.

Are we honestly expecting respectable men to overlook this? Seriously?

There was a feminist campaign in Austrailia, claiming that men who lie about their status in order to bed a woman, should be guilty of rape. He told her he was a multimillionaire, her pants dropped, they had sex, and he is a lowly supermarket worker or something. Well how about if a woman lies about her sexual past, to get into a relationship, she should face charges of fraud!

Now, it had been well documented, and probably taken with a pinch of salt, that the more sexual partners a woman has had, the less likely she is to be able to pair bond with one man. She has had so many men inside her, she has the mind set of Next! Next! Next!

Women know this too..... hence why they deceive men about their sexual mileage.
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 6-Dec-2019 21:46 Message #4764321
oh my god is that it now, my sexual gallivanting is history?..lol


well I had a ball or two and loved it...……….lol

ya cant beat good clean honest horny fun that don't hurt no one...…...lol
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 6-Dec-2019 21:49 Message #4764322
oops never read op properly,
I would only be judgemental if I found out they couldn't be monogamous, that does mean one partner at a time right?
asking to go for a sexual health check should be simple.....according to reports the highest sexual disease bunch is aged 55-70, so hell yes…..
Female
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire 6-Dec-2019 22:10 Message #4764327
So hands up then, all you honest people...
Who's actually had a sexual health screening ??
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 6-Dec-2019 22:15 Message #4764328
lol don't be daft topaz.....…...no one on here admits to having sex so why a sex check?
I had one about 4 years ago after a relationship failed as I,m low immune system and I,ve never had an std and don't fancy one at all...……………......
Female
Cassis  Female  Cambridgeshire 6-Dec-2019 22:16 Message #4764329
HB
So if a guy should be worried about a girl who gives unlimited bj's on a nightclub floor, and the girl who had sex with 28 men in a pool, just think how worried women should be with the prospect of the 28x to infinite number of men who are are then a threat compared to every 2 women!
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 6-Dec-2019 22:39 Message #4764333
"just think how worried women should be with the prospect of the 28x to infinite number of men who are are then a threat compared to every 2 women!"

Eh.... Sorry! Not quite sure I get where you are coming from...

Do you mean about STDs? So if who women have sex with 30 guys a night, its the guys that have a threat?

Possibly having a bald moment as I've read it a few times and don't get it!
Female
Mary  Female  Norfolk 6-Dec-2019 22:57 Message #4764335
I'd have no problem asking a potential partner or playmate to take a test.

This is 2019, after all.

Those who do one night stands are obviously going to be more at risk.

Therefore the few days it takes to get the test results will mean they'll be more likely to take care of themselves and be more likely to have a committed relationship.

It also shows respect and care.
I for one, like these traits.

Female
Mary  Female  Norfolk 6-Dec-2019 23:20 Message #4764343
Another very good reason for asking your guy to get tested is there's a fair percent of guys who are "heterosexual" but in fact go with other guys.

I know this to be factual.
Male
terry  Male  West Yorkshire 6-Dec-2019 23:38 Message #4764344
'the girl who was videod giving oral sex to 28 men on a dance floor in Ibiza, or the girl who had multiple strange men at a pool party,'

Turn it on it's head (no pun intended) and it's much like a lad I used to work with, he used to act in porn films and that would have been all in a days work for him. I suppose it's not worth mentioning that in the example given, it obviously didn't bother the blokes doing it/having it done to them?
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside 6-Dec-2019 23:43 Message #4764345
and in one night one girl could have give 28 blokes an std...……
I need the 29th who fell asleep waiting and never got one...…...lol
Female
NoSaint  Female  Devon 7-Dec-2019 07:57 Message #4764364
I think there’s a lot to be said for leaving the past in the past. If a relationship is worthwhile it’s the future which is important.
Check ups are sensible as you never know about a new partner or even about yourself unless you are checked. Some stis lay dormant for a very long time.
Male
Neros1954  Male  Devon 7-Dec-2019 14:41 Message #4764389
Leaving the past in the past is the best way forward.
Male
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 7-Dec-2019 17:05 Message #4764412
HB..."I couldn't even begin to imagine the shame if I was to settle down with a woman who has had lots of other men, putting their penises into my partner, I wouldn't be able to look myself in the mirror, or hold my head up high as I walk the streets!"

Really? You'd want to know all about a potential partner's sexual history? Would it actually be any of your business how many partners she/he had slept with? Provided they are monogamous whilst with you why would you care? Yes a check over for both (all?) parties, but history of partners is, surely, irrelevant?
Male
Colonel_Blink  Male  Buckinghamshire 7-Dec-2019 20:59 Message #4764427
Most of us on this site are of an age when having experienced a few lovers would be expected.
Male
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 7-Dec-2019 21:23 Message #4764430
Exactly, Colonel.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 8-Dec-2019 08:56 Message #4764455
"Really? You'd want to know all about a potential partner's sexual history?"

No. I don't want to know about every single little detail about her past, just relevant details.... How many sexual partners has she had, Was any of it ever recorded, Have they all been one night stands, and Is there any naked selifies or pics of her out there that could come back in the future.

"Would it actually be any of your business how many partners she/he had slept with?"

Yes! Why shouldn't it be my business? Would you walk in to a car garage and buy a used vehicle without looking at the service book? Better yet, Why should it matter to a woman I go into a relationship with, if I did, or didn't batter the living day lights out of all my previous partners? After all, it's all in the past! Of course it matters! It can tell a lot about a person their history.

"Provided they are monogamous whilst with you why would you care? "

This question is answered in the quotation in your post, from my original post on this thread. I'd be extremely embarrassed, ashamed and feel indescribable pain, if I was in a long term relationship with a woman, and it came out that she was a slut! It would be very damaging to my health and well being.

The problem here is the usual problem.... This is important to ME, and lots of other men. What business do YOU have Nigel to down play what is important to me? If you want to settle down and invest in a woman who every other man in town has banged, go ahead!

As usual, and I've said it before about you Nigel..... I think you are being very dishonest and disingenuous, trying to say what you think women want to hear, in order to score brownie points.
Male
FirmButFair-TrollPatrol  Male  North Yorkshire 8-Dec-2019 09:13 Message #4764457
HonestBob. “ trying to say what you think women want to hear, in order to score brownie points.”

Not something you will ever be accused of.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 8-Dec-2019 09:19 Message #4764460
"Not something you will ever be accused of."

No, hopefully not.

I think in the long run being honest, and up front is the best policy.

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