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HonestBob  Male  the Central region 7-Oct-2019 15:23 Message #4756682
Hi Folks!

So recently I paid £620 for a 4 day course. The course is known as an ADR, and basically would give me the qualification in order to drive tankers full of diesel/petrol/kerosene, among other things, but that is why I'm getting it, for hauling fuel. The job I'm in is going down hill slowly, and I want to be prepared for a jump.

My decision has been met with mixed reactions.....

A female friend of mine recently paid a similar amount to go on a holiday, she was in disbelief that I spent this money to sit in a classroom for 4 days, then do a test, when I could have had a holiday or some shiny things. One of my brothers seemed to see it as flushing money down the pan.

I've always been interested in personal development as I call it. When I was a bus driver, I saved up money, took holidays and went to learn how to drive a HGV. Then when our bus depot closed down, and they started sacking lots of people, I had a HGV entitlement to go work elsewhere.

I also got my motorcycle licence, which never got me a job, bit did help me develop my driving through advanced riding techniques, and learned a bit about running commentary. Which done me huge favours when I went and applied to be a bus driving instructor, knowing lots of lingo, or jargon about driving helped, aswell as all the other instructors were bikers.

My brother recently had a baby, so I went on my day off, paid £45 and learned a child and baby first aid course. Learned a few things just incase of an emergency. Got to take the role of uncle seriously now! Hehehehe

I like to go to gym, and although I've got a chunky appearance, I'm in decent shape (strength wise) and I now get guys in the gym coming to me for advice, which is an absolute honour. Keeping myself strong is an on going area of personal development.

On my list now is swimming, I'd love to be a competent swimmer, and swim outdoors. I'd like to learn the basics of plumbing, electrics and general DIY.

What about you guys?

What skills have you learned? Be it for a job, or just for your own personal, personal development? Where did you go to learn it? How has it helped you in life? What's next on your development hit list?

Thanks for reading!
Male
fosy  Male  Leicestershire 7-Oct-2019 16:24 Message #4756692
h/b,

am i right in thinking tanker driving is well paid ?
if thats the case, and your existing job is going belly up then what you have done is to speculate to accumulate ?

when i took my advanced driving i did it just to improve my skills [i always had an interest in driving], but when the ambulance service found out i had got this certificate they got me on to their driver training staff which included further driving courses and certifications.
i really enjoyed doing the driving assessments and driving courses for new trainee,s to the service and this in turn opened up other avenues.

so, from little acorns...
Male
terry  Male  West Yorkshire 7-Oct-2019 16:35 Message #4756696
I'd agree about the adr, it should improve pay grade but more importantly, allow you to get more experience in shifting stuff about. Transport is going to change over the next thirty or so years - maybe sooner? so any knowledge of logistics is going to be useful. Might I suggest a logistics course, perhaps international - unless you've already done it.

I decided against joining the rat race of 'personal' development after getting sacked (rightly so) from the pit at 17y.o. and only partly rejoined it 15 years ago when I volunteered for a national charity.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 7-Oct-2019 17:43 Message #4756712
"am i right in thinking tanker driving is well paid ?"

and

"I'd agree about the adr, it should improve pay grade"

Strictly speaking yes. The job I'm in pays literately pennies less than the top jobs in tanker work. As far as driving jobs go, I'm pretty much at the top of the ladder. Where I am just now have cut all the overtime down, and are really eating at the very good Ts&Cs. Few mates drive for various tanker firms and they have a non stop, 24/7 work load, and have decent pay. There are tanker firms here who pay poor too.

Tanker game in the 90s was the place to be. Now it's not as good as it used to be, but still much above general haulage. Added benefit is tankers don't seem to be away all week, as the cabs on tanker units have no sleeping accommodation. For my dog you see.....

Yes Foz, it could be called speculating to accumulate.
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joolsy  Female  Essex 7-Oct-2019 18:15 Message #4756723
Good on you bob .i think you are very wise .investing in your future .wish you all the best for the future ....joolsy x
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Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 7-Oct-2019 18:22 Message #4756724
All makes sense to me - I have paid my own way to improve my prospects. Mind you, financially the retaining into teaching was a backward step! So much more job satisfaction though ;-)
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wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 7-Oct-2019 18:40 Message #4756727
Makes sense to me, but then I did a degree for the hell of it, because I wanted too, well done you Bob and for doing baby first aid, as with any first aid you never know when you'll need it and anything with babies is more complicated than with adults.
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Ilsmileforu  Female  Durham 7-Oct-2019 19:53 Message #4756738
I was asked to cover for the Assistant Manager and the Manager in one job.
I got very little extra money for running a Residential Home.
So I went back to College and got my Management qualification.
Then when I was in my sixties I enrolled on two Open Uni courses.
Male
MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire 7-Oct-2019 20:03 Message #4756744
Well done Bob and good luck for the future. Life is worth the effort.
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HonestBob  Male  the Central region 7-Oct-2019 20:13 Message #4756746
"Good on you bob .i think you are very wise .investing in your future .wish you all the best for the future ....joolsy x"

Thank you Joolsy!

You got any "Personal Development" type history or plans for the future?
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HonestBob  Male  the Central region 7-Oct-2019 20:14 Message #4756747
"Mind you, financially the retaining into teaching was a backward step! "

Aw..... so you went back to teaching? What from may I ask?
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 7-Oct-2019 20:20 Message #4756749
" I did a degree for the hell of it, because I wanted too, "

What was that in? And did you ever use the degree?

"well done you Bob and for doing baby first aid, as with any first aid you never know when you'll need it and anything with babies is more complicated than with adults."

Yes, I knew nothing of first aid, or babies for that matter. Was an interesting course. If the opportunity was more readily available, I'd like to do more training in something like that. First responder training or something. With my elderly dad living with me, and elderly neighbours all around me it could come in handy.

Also, came across a man lying by the side of a dual carriageway last Saturday night..... he was just sleeping. No first aid required. Hahaha
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joolsy  Female  Essex 7-Oct-2019 20:25 Message #4756752
I would like to work with children .i help my daughter at her montersorrie school .just seeing young children achieve .a d how they just love to be praised is wonderful .
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JustLyn  Female  Cheshire 7-Oct-2019 20:29 Message #4756754
I trained as a 2 yr pupil nurse (lower grade than the 3 yr course).

Left for 14 years during which time paid for 6 years worth of Open University modules and used some of them to upgrade my nursing qualification against the understanding of other nurses I was working with. They said, why was I paying for my own training. I said, because I am 40 and back of the queue for the hospital to offer it free.

I spent a year with zero leave, just working to get in the experience that was mandatory with zero hospital support.

Did 2 more years of higher level certificates at post graduate level at Manchester University

Gained:
BSc Hons (IT, Environment & Public Health)
Diploma in Health and Social Welfare
Higher Level Certificate in Counselling
2 x Modules at Masters Level in 1. Cardiovascular Risk Assessment and then 2. Managing Diabetes.

Might get my Certificate in Retirement next year???
Might look for a job at Tesco

Female
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire 7-Oct-2019 20:30 Message #4756755
Good for you Bob. I admire you for taking the course. One is never too old or too young to learn new things . Life is an adventure and far too short, one should always seek new horizons. If also, it leads to an improvement in your own lifestyle, then its a bonus.

((hugs)) V x
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Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 7-Oct-2019 21:44 Message #4756780
Bob..."so you went back to teaching? What from may I ask?"

Started out in IT (about 20 years) and this was the most lucrative for me. Then had a spell as a Driving Instructor (about 6 years). Started retraining as a teacher in 2010.
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Mary  Female  Norfolk 7-Oct-2019 23:44 Message #4756802
Sounds pretty sensible to me, HonestBob

It's good to have several strings to one's bow.

My escorting isn't going to last for ever, so I bought a mansion and established my Adult Club where I'm Hostess and Dominatrix.
Male
Beach  Male  Dorset 8-Oct-2019 00:22 Message #4756812
Congratulations, Bob, on raising such an intriguing and worthy topic of discussion!

I had opted to be quite disciplined and keep away from these Midsummer conversations since September 4th but your topic has seduced/encouraged me to raise my head above the Midsummer parapet to offer my two penneth though I reserve the right to disappear again once I press the Send button on completing this particular post! :-)

Personal development covers a wide range of subjects including career enhancement, mental agility, physical prowess, spiritual enlightenment, psychological exploration and the realisation, (or self actualisation), of all manner of dreams and aspirations so your brilliant original post has an opportunity to host a vast array of comments from MSE members and I hope fellow readers/posters honour you by contributing to this page.

My story may be somewhat adjacent to the normal flow, starting from what might be described as the opposite end.

Fame, success, international acclaim might suggest I achieved something extra-ordinary during the unfolding of my earlier life but, as I’ve documented too many times on these pages prior, my commercial success ultimately cost me all I had ever held dear or loved and, subsequently, I found myself psychologically broken, cast adrift in an alien world a million miles from anything I had ever known.

It took me a decade to find even a gossamer thin safety line of hope to begin pulling myself back to any semblance of peace of mind but as I began that journey, I realised I had a chance to rebuild a brand new version of myself.

Thus; for me, personal development and growth would now run on different tracks and I would now run on rails that would prioritise my own happiness, my sense of self worth and my own personal passions, interests and hobbies. (View my Midsummer photo galleries to see a graphical hint of those elements).

Today, having rebuilt myself, I still have a business but, unlike my previous international career in innovation, my current enterprise draws on my passions for computing, technology and the cool, sexy side of robotics, 3D photography and the joy of working with people, one to one, delivering tuition or solving problems for others.

Off duty, I’ve turned lifelong interests in prehistory, geology, archaeology and astronomy into a local pursuit of exploring my beloved West Dorset coast adding electric bikes, photography, drone photography and angling into the mix, all with the aim of, purposely, making every day of my life a little adventure and a dynamic, real world, puzzle component that I can click into the bigger picture of the brand new vision I’ve now manifest and brought into being.

The old me, the publicity seeking CEO with his starship of a Lexus LS400 and his sleek boat bobbing about in the harbour was dead before I even joined Midsummer, (originally), in September 1999. The new me, who eventually re-materialised around about 2010, (after a decade of soul searching), is an entirely different animal, completely disinterested in wealth or material chattels.

Actually, John Lennon’s “Watching the Wheels” probably explains what I am trying to relate way better than I ever could.

People say I'm lazy, dreaming my life away.
Well they give me all kinds of advice designed to enlighten me.
When I tell that I'm doing fine watching shadows on the wall.
Don't you miss the big time boy you're no longer on the ball?
I'm just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round.
I really love to watch them roll.
No longer riding on the merry-go-round.
I just had to let it go.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uVXR2LYeFBI
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wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 8-Oct-2019 11:24 Message #4756846
My degree was in Medieval History, I know it was never going to get me a job and I was fully intending on going back to being self employed having indentified a gap in the market where I was living, then ill health, the 2008 recession and a load more ill heath put the kybosh on all that. But do I use my degree, yes I'd say that I do, maybe not in obvious ways, but the thinking and analtical skills I learnt, yes I use those every day and I continue to read on the subject and would love to do more of it, another degree, an MA or PHD or do another subject all together.
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HonestBob  Male  the Central region 8-Oct-2019 11:34 Message #4756850
"My escorting isn't going to last for ever, so I bought a mansion and established my Adult Club where I'm Hostess and Dominatrix."

Very good forward thinking!

How do you see the upcoming availability or high quality sex dolls effecting the escorting industry?
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 8-Oct-2019 11:40 Message #4756852
"so your brilliant original post has an opportunity to host a vast array of comments from MSE members and I hope fellow readers/posters honour you by contributing to this page."

Thanks!

Yes, I hope they do. As I believe Barney may have a interesting tale to tell, as he seems quite a successful man, with a few intriguing past times.

Also Cassis may have some interesting personal growths, judging from some of her other post over the years.
Female
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 8-Oct-2019 18:56 Message #4756916
Yuk Bob theres no need to make poor Cassis sound as though she needs an ointment!
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 8-Oct-2019 19:54 Message #4756927
Nice one Bob.
Female
Mary  Female  Norfolk 9-Oct-2019 11:39 Message #4757080
Very good forward thinking!

How do you see the upcoming availability or high quality sex dolls effecting the escorting industry?

Lol.
The only way to find out is for you to try one, then report back on your findings of doll Vs real life.

X
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 9-Oct-2019 20:59 Message #4757135
"The only way to find out is for you to try one, then report back on your findings of doll Vs real life."

I'd love one! There was a sex doll brothel opened up near me, but believe it was shut down, or maybe before it even opened.

I've known quite a few guys who have spent time, and money with escorts and I have to say it changed them. For good and bad.

Is there a way to tell a good escort from a crap one?

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