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Mary  Female  Norfolk 5-Oct-2019 17:13 Message #4756352
I'm curious to know why some profile photos are so out of date.

The ones I've checked are at least 7 years old.
How would a date recognise us if we don't look like our out of date photos ?
I hate my photos, but I accept that's how I appear.

Unrealistic photos are a form of deception.
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Good2BWith  Male  West Yorkshire 5-Oct-2019 17:18 Message #4756353
Some of us have tried to update our pix - see the Thread "Photos".
Unfortunately, the system has stopped working, even with JPEGs.
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Good2BWith  Male  West Yorkshire 5-Oct-2019 17:21 Message #4756354
http://www.midsummerseve.com/thread/192602/1/photos
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Good2BWith  Male  West Yorkshire 5-Oct-2019 17:22 Message #4756355
midsummerseve.com/thread/192602/1/photos
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Mary  Female  Norfolk 5-Oct-2019 17:26 Message #4756356
Oh, Thanks.

Has the system been down for 7 years ?

I've uploaded and rearranged my photos in the last week without issue


(I can't access the previous post)
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JustLyn  Female  Cheshire 5-Oct-2019 18:38 Message #4756360
I am happy to have no picture, met lots of people, not held me back as I would only want to meet people where looks don't matter.
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Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 5-Oct-2019 18:48 Message #4756362
Not sure I look much different. Cant remember when I last updated my photo...may well be due an update. It can wait a little longer though.
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Argonaut  Male  Lancashire 5-Oct-2019 19:28 Message #4756366
Yep, mines way out of date - but it's stated in my profile so there is no attempt to deceive anyone.

It's the most recent picture of me with a guitar.

If anyone wants a slightly more recent picture of me playing a guitar then hop along to Youtube and put Jason Twell in the search box.



Jason.
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eurostar  Female  Merseyside 5-Oct-2019 19:28 Message #4756367
mine is from June 2019....need a winter one I suppose, now wheres my snowgirl outfit?...……..lol
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Cautious1954  Female  Berkshire 5-Oct-2019 20:01 Message #4756370
I don’t think unrealistic photos are a form of deception unless they are used with the intention of receipt. I put my photo on here about six years ago and I haven’t bothered to change it. I’ve met a few guys from this site and nobody has commented. I might have said it’s an old picture to some and I would say if asked.
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Good2BWith  Male  West Yorkshire 5-Oct-2019 20:10 Message #4756376
eurostar Sex icon 5-Oct-2019 19:28
mine is from June 2019....need a winter one I suppose, now wheres my snowgirl outfit?...……..lol

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Thanks for reminding me of a wonderful tune from way back.
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A_man_called_CHIOG  Male  South East London 5-Oct-2019 20:55 Message #4756388
I’ve kept the same photo although I look younger now than I did then.
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Mary  Female  Norfolk 6-Oct-2019 03:04 Message #4756418
For me, an up-to-date photo is essential.

I don't see any point of misrepresentation.

If I met a date and they didn't look like their photo, I'd be upset. Particularly if in fact they looked some 10 years older
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JustLyn  Female  Cheshire 6-Oct-2019 05:37 Message #4756422
You could miss the live of your life being too age specific.

Just reading about the BBC presenter Professor Alice Roberts, a very young looking 46 year old. Her 78 year old husband of 23 years died last July.

My friend's husband is 33 years older and they met when he was 72.

An ex colleague visited a patient who needed care. He was 75 and his carer wife was 102!

People aged 45 can look and act 95 and 75 year olds can be fit and healthy and have an active future ahead.

How can people judge their future happiness on a picture that is less than the size of a finger nail,?

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Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 6-Oct-2019 06:52 Message #4756425
Mary..."I don't see any point of misrepresentation"

I wouldn't see it as misrepresentation unless it was deliberately done to deceive, for example, choosing a photo of someone else. I have happily met up with people who had no photo at all. I would see personality as far, far more important than a photo.
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MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire 6-Oct-2019 07:41 Message #4756429
If I met a date and they didn't look like their photo, I'd be upset. Particularly if in fact they looked some 10 years older

What if you met a date and they looked 10 years younger? Would you walk away? Chastise them for not looking like their photo? Feel you had been deceived in any way?
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Cassis  Female  Cambridgeshire 6-Oct-2019 09:08 Message #4756445
I can't see that it matters much what the picture is like if you're not here to date, which many of us, including myself, are not. I don't bother to even visit my profile page as again there's no point. And it's hardly deception when the date it was put up is shown clearly underneath.
I've thought of changing mine because I don't like it much but just don't see the point. I've yet to have anyone from this site not recognise me when they've met me.
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PrincessFruitBat  Female  Essex 6-Oct-2019 09:14 Message #4756448
I try to keep my portrait photo fairly up to date, (within five years-ish) but the other photos on my profile are quite old. However, it is not my intention to deceive anybody. I just like to keep them for old times sake.

I’ve met four of the people on this thread including the OP who has changed a little since we last met but I would recognise them all from their photos and besides, many people I know have looked the same for years.
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PrincessFruitBat  Female  Essex 6-Oct-2019 09:17 Message #4756450
Change the number I’ve met to five...we overlapped Cassis, but you too look just like your photo.
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Mary  Female  Norfolk 6-Oct-2019 10:02 Message #4756466
It's not an ageism thing.

The important things about a person to date are their personality, and looks.

Whilst looks aren't everything, they are important.

Having liked the look of their photo, and then discovered it's not a true depiction of them, it might change the attraction.
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RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 6-Oct-2019 10:11 Message #4756470
Fair comment. Especially if you have made a lot of effort or travelled some distance to meet them.
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wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 6-Oct-2019 10:53 Message #4756477
What Cassis said, my photos the same as I had when I joined, but then I'm not here to date and I don't really want to be a blue cut out. One of the reasons I've not changed it is because I don't have a camera and I have no idea how to put a photo on here anyway.
Female
NoSaint  Female  Devon 6-Oct-2019 14:35 Message #4756514
It only matters if you intend meeting.
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MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire 6-Oct-2019 16:06 Message #4756541
What if you met a date and they looked 10 years younger? Would you walk away? Chastise them for not looking like their photo? Feel you had been deceived in any way?

I asked this question earlier. I’ve met ladies who have looked younger and more attractive 5han their photos.
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Judance  Female  Berkshire 6-Oct-2019 16:49 Message #4756549
I regularly moderate the profile photos on here so I'm not sure where the idea came about that it was impossible.

If you are talking about adding other photos and using the galleries option, I can't comment as I just deal with profiles... as I did with Mary's recently and Joolsy's today.

Send a photo over now and I'll deal with it.

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