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What do you like to talk about on a first date?

Well this is a dating site (2)

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A_man_called_CHIOG  Male  South East London
23-Aug-2019 06:29 Message #4749373
Yourself? General subjects?
Female
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire
23-Aug-2019 07:55 Message #4749383
Learn about each other and avoid politics or religion. Even on a friendly little site like mse those subjects soon turn nasty so what’s the point.
Male
mancers  Male  Greater Manchester
23-Aug-2019 09:23 Message #4749388
The first thing that pops up.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
23-Aug-2019 09:38 Message #4749395
Well I'm kind of guilty of going all out, just to see how our minds match up....

Do you have kids?
Do you want kids?
Are you, or do you have a reputation of being a slut?
Is there any pic/videos of you naked, or having sex out there that may come back to haunt you?
Are you in debt?
Marriage?
Would you take the man's name?
How are you domestically?

As there is not much point wasting each other's time if I have no inclinations of starting a relationship with her if we don't agree on things or have different values.
Female
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd
23-Aug-2019 10:27 Message #4749406
Its so long I wouldn't know.
Female
Greencare  Female  Berkshire
23-Aug-2019 12:51 Message #4749417
Raach. Politics on here is like all out warfare. The last guy I chatted to on a date we talked a lot about holidays and the holidays we would like in the future.
Female
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire
23-Aug-2019 12:58 Message #4749418
I was on a date some years ago and he spent the whole lunchtime giving me the story of his life. At the end of it, he said "well I think we have loads in common, shall we meet again". He was most offended when I said " I dont think I have anything in common with you, but thanks for the life story".
Male
MrQuiet  Male  Northamptonshire
23-Aug-2019 16:45 Message #4749434
I'm the opposite to HonestBob. I like to chat and perhaps a little banter but get to know each other slowly not firing lots of questions. Agree with Raach that you shouldn't discuss politics. Various friends and past girlfriends have had a lot of different political views and many disagreeing with my own but that's not a barrier if you can have adult discussions but it rarely works on a first date.
Female
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd
23-Aug-2019 18:59 Message #4749446
I don't know that I agree with you there MrQuiet, it may be better to get those things out of the way early on, I find that in the early stages of a relationship you're both more willing to go easy with eachother, maybe out of politeness than anything else but these things can become real causes of conflict later in a relationship. I think I'd want to know from the off if someones going to have problems with my multicultural, anarchic family. Just the same as I'd want to know if they were allergic to animals or just didn't like them, because that would be a non starter for me.
Female
eurostar  Female  Merseyside
23-Aug-2019 19:00 Message #4749447
erm………………...just stuff...….lol
Female
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire
23-Aug-2019 19:04 Message #4749454
The first thing that pops up.

ooer, missus!
Male
tumbled  Male  Gloucestershire
23-Aug-2019 20:23 Message #4749466
No set agenda.....some of the stuff will be natural...some not....

Making each other laugh is good....but don't try and be a stand up comedian...

If you're enjoying each others company, then that usually wins through...
Male
Colonel_Blink  Male  Buckinghamshire
24-Aug-2019 18:40 Message #4749547
As long as the conversation flows I like talking about anything. Good advice tumbleweed don’t try to be a stand up comedian as it can be tiresome to others even when you think you’re being hilarious.
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire
24-Aug-2019 20:46 Message #4749554
My last date never stopped talking but I think she was nervous. She was an interesting lady.

Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia
24-Aug-2019 22:34 Message #4749573
I like to split it down the middle.. I talk about me then I let her talk about me...
Male
Templar2013  Male  South East London
24-Aug-2019 23:22 Message #4749578
I’m never short of something to say but I can listen too.
Male
tsunamiwarrior  Male  Hertfordshire
25-Aug-2019 14:43 Message #4749630
Holidays is usually a safe subject and easy to talk about with strangers. Hopes for the future is good a bit later.
Female
NoSaint  Female  Devon
10-Jan-2020 07:24 Message #4767818
Templar2013 Male South East London 24-Aug-2019 23:22 Message #4749578
I’m never short of something to say but I can listen too.


Perfect!
Male
shergar  Male  Greater Manchester
10-Jan-2020 07:42 Message #4767820
Sooty and Sweep.
Female
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire
10-Jan-2020 09:17 Message #4767828
HONESTBOB

Who on earth would call you a misogynist ??

How is your relationship going ?
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
10-Jan-2020 09:49 Message #4767833
"Who on earth would call you a misogynist ??"

Beats me.... I'm as puzzled as you are! I'm sure I posted the definition of misogynist in my other thread....

a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women.

How could I possibly be accused of this?


"How is your relationship going ?"

Kind of hit a bit of a rock over Xmas. I'm not looking for anything serious, made this very clear at start, as I'm not a bullshitter or a leader on-er. Got to know her a bit better, nice, very lovely woman..... just not for me. She was going on dates with other guys whilst we were "seeing" each other. Believe it or not, they were no match for me. She wanted more serious and stable relationship coming into new year. I stopped her in her tracks. She started trying to be the woman I want, rather than the woman she is. We stopped communicating...... Shame!

How about yours?
Female
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire
10-Jan-2020 10:12 Message #4767839
Going wel thanks, third date this Sunday !


Did you pick the lock on your cell,
Or did you get time off for good behaviour???

Hmmmm ...probably the later eh ??
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region
10-Jan-2020 11:06 Message #4767854
"Going wel thanks, third date this Sunday !"

Aw sounds good! We all know what happens on a third date!!! Hehehehe

I believe it was Marvin Gaye that said.... "Lets get it ooooan!"

I can only assume your date never asked you any of my above questions?


"Did you pick the lock on your cell,
Or did you get time off for good behaviour???"


No actually. It was little Greta Thunderbird that released me!
Female
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire
10-Jan-2020 11:19 Message #4767856
HONESTBOB

3rd date....please don't judge me by your standards !

AND I'll be having words with Greta !
She's obviously not into capital punishment...shame :/
Male
tumbled  Male  Gloucestershire
10-Jan-2020 11:25 Message #4767857
3rd date....please don't judge me by your standards !

was it the 2nd date then?....( smiley thing at the end....I can't draw.. )

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