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Drifting apart.

Do you see the signs?

A_man_called_CHIOG  Male  South East London 27-Jul-2019 15:51 Message #4746557
When a couple begin to drift apart there are usually small signs to begin with which if noticed in time might help stop the drift. Do you know what signs might show themselves? Have you seen them in your relationship?
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 27-Jul-2019 16:18 Message #4746562
When you stop talking and bury your head in a newspaper or iPhone instead.
tumbled  Male  Gloucestershire 27-Jul-2019 16:20 Message #4746563
When you go from always making each other never laughing together again.
NotHermit  Male  Derbyshire 27-Jul-2019 18:21 Message #4746569
Sugar in my tea, one of my exes started putting sugar in my tea by accident.
Within a week, I caught the little Neob Jockey.

Couple of years later, I heard a lovely story about the love birds.
He came home early, caught partner in bed with another man , decided to throw him out.
He came off worse, and was thrown out of his own house.
Then he went to the pub, where after explaining the situation, he was told about all the other visitors.
One was even sat at the same table, next to him!
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 27-Jul-2019 18:57 Message #4746573
Often not, how do you tell the difference between passing the first flush of excitment in a relationship and the long term stuff where you gve each other the space to do your own thing a bit?
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire 27-Jul-2019 20:54 Message #4746577
Its when you suddenly realise you cant stand th sight of each other...
persona_non_grata  Male  North London 27-Jul-2019 21:03 Message #4746579
One of the first subtle signs is small things which never bothered you start to become annoying.
warmundeft  Male  Wrexham 27-Jul-2019 23:15 Message #4746592
Did have a thought once upon a time.

"I'm only going home 'cos that's where I live."

Bit of a giveaway, what?
terry  Male  West Yorkshire 28-Jul-2019 06:53 Message #4746600
Usually it's straight after saying hello
Andromeda  Female  Berkshire 28-Jul-2019 08:34 Message #4746606
A bit pessimistic terry.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 28-Jul-2019 12:08 Message #4746627
Pretty much everyone annoys me so its more a case of balancing annoyances.
tsunamiwarrior  Male  Hertfordshire 28-Jul-2019 14:46 Message #4746636
When your partner starts stopping off for a drink on the way home. Then two drinks. Then three ...
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 28-Jul-2019 15:04 Message #4746642
I don't believe that people just "drift apart". It sounds too passive to me. When a relationship break downs it is usually because one both of the partners stop investing in the relationship. At some level, a decision has been made, either conscious or subconscious, that their partner matters less than other things.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 28-Jul-2019 18:56 Message #4746678
I think sometimes life just takes over, esepcially when you have young children, so much revolves around them and you get used to thinking of yourselves primarily as parents, its when you stop having to be parents and be a couple again that you realise you the other is a virtual stranger and there's next to nothing apart from family life.

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