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why i wont ever get a date

Female
Lainiepops  Female  Hampshire 15-Apr-2019 17:36 Message #4738688
Have you ever noticed in the natural world, how the male is usually the one that shows off.? Is brighter in colour, has bigger manes, (lion). prettier plumage (peacock and others) etx? and the females are of a lesser colour, dullard, bleak, invisible?

so WTF happened when us girls have to thicken/cover our faces with expensive make up, buy creams to hide lines , and underwear to hide our fat to make a bloke like us??

they walk around with beer bellies, no.make up...hair in their ears and noses. go on first dates in work clothes ( yes it happened to me), or the oldest jeans from the wardrobe??? but expect us to always look glam??
ffs
Vanity rulez??
Not on this bod.
Male
persona_non_grata  Male  North London 15-Apr-2019 18:06 Message #4738689
Let me tell you ...they were not my work clothes ... they were my casual clothes :)
Male
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 15-Apr-2019 20:48 Message #4738710
"so WTF happened when us girls have to thicken/cover our faces with expensive make up, buy creams to hide lines , and underwear to hide our fat to make a bloke like us??"

Have to? Really?

Personally I wouldn't like a woman to feel they had to do any such thing.
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 15-Apr-2019 23:01 Message #4738729
Takes all sorts !
Male
NotHermit  Male  Derbyshire 16-Apr-2019 01:32 Message #4738738
You want to see my inbox?
Maybe we are all getting a little older.
What difference do hairy ears make?
Could be a really nice person attached to those little fuzz balls.
Full set, matching beard and nose hair, what more could you want.
Male
HonestBob  Male  the Central region 16-Apr-2019 03:24 Message #4738740
"WTF happened when us girls have to thicken/cover our faces with expensive make up, buy creams to hide lines , and underwear to hide our fat to make a bloke like us?? "

I don't think you do! I'm very sick and tired of all the fakery I see in women today, very tired. Fake hair, fake eye brows, fake eye lashes, fake tan, fake nails... Fake tits and lips are also more and more regular. It's actually refreshing to see a woman, one of natural youth and beauty, to bare her face in public! I feel they are more genuine and more down to earth... or too lazy to put fake up on lol

I meet some young mothers during the day as I walk my dog, I'd guess from the ages of 18-25ish, usually pushing a pram or walking some young child. Now, I fully appreciate raising children is a full time job, even if there are two parents. Some of these mothers, probably due to time, come out the house with their hair tied up, no make up on, joggy bottoms and trainers... I think they look much better than the plastered on porn star wannabe! But the question is... what if you are a woman who is genuinely ugly? Or aging before her years?


"they walk around with beer bellies, no.make up...hair in their ears and noses. go on first dates in work clothes ( yes it happened to me), or the oldest jeans from the wardrobe??? "

You see, women don't judge men entirely on looks. We get judged on our income, career, car we own, house we own, and how much green we spend on you! It's called the burden of performance.

Lainiepops... would you rather be judged on that?

And the things women do find sexually arousing, it can't be smeared on, things like height, hair, jaw lines and muscles...

"but expect us to always look glam??"

Most men don't. When ever I see a big fat woman, and she is plastered in make up, I often say to myself "instead of spending all that time with a trowl, caking that crap on her face, she would be vastly more attractive if she spent that 30 mins on a treadmill!"

This appears to be another case of women, opening up their magazines, and have make up companies telling them what men find attractive...
Male
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 16-Apr-2019 10:24 Message #4738753
"This appears to be another case of women, opening up their magazines, and have make up companies telling them what men find attractive..."

The advertising companies love to play on people's insecurities if it means they can make a few quid out of it!

It is a person's personality that counts most!
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 16-Apr-2019 10:31 Message #4738755
Try telling a woman she can't wear make up, high heels, pretty dresses or wear creams, lotions and potions to make herself look good and see how you get on.
Sorry, women playing the victim with stuff like this is a non starter with me...
Female
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 16-Apr-2019 10:42 Message #4738756
I wear moisturisers because I have dry, itchy and sensitive skin, but no make-up, I haven't worn a dress for years or high heels, I sometimes get told I'm unfeminine, other times I'm admired for my "bravery" in not conforming to these dress codes. I'm not sure which confuses me more, the unfeminine comment or the bravery one? I just dress in a way that I'm comfortable with and if others don't like it then they don't have to look at me. I think whatever you wear there will be some who will damn you for it, so just tell them to get over themselves and walk away, you don't need that sort of carp in your life.
Male
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 16-Apr-2019 13:16 Message #4738767
"Try telling a woman she can't wear make up, high heels, pretty dresses or wear creams, lotions and potions to make herself look good and see how you get on."

Neither is it our place to tell anyone they can't wear such paraphernalia. ;-)
Male
BlackMark1  Male  Leicestershire 16-Apr-2019 15:15 Message #4738778
Some people are far too uptight about what others think.
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 17-Apr-2019 12:54 Message #4738864
Some people are far too uptight about what others think.

So very true.
Female
Lainiepops  Female  Hampshire 18-Apr-2019 08:28 Message #4738900
i recently been on two dates. Made myself presentable, first one met me in jeans I would put in a bin, and a leather jacket that didnt fit, and the beer belly hanging over the belt.

Second one had fslling down trousers, a fishermans jumper complete with holes.

I at least made an effort to wear clothes that fit, and brushed my hair. Even put some eye shadow on.

I dont wear creams, or thick make up. I was just saying, that rarely would you find us looking like we just got out of bed and picked up the first thing we found on the floor tomwear, if we were going to meet what might be the person you like enough to want to spend a lot of the rest of your life with.

It was a rant.
I wont rant again.
Obvs some got the wrong meaning to what I was on about.
My bad.
I will now go back to my hidey hole and shut up.
Thank you
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 18-Apr-2019 08:41 Message #4738901
Shame, that man in faded jeans and ill-fitting leather jacket might have been the man to make your heart sing, but you didn't give yourself a chance to find out.
You moan about men judging by looks and appearance, yet that's exactly what you are doing.
Enjoy your hidey hole...

Male
terry  Male  West Yorkshire 18-Apr-2019 09:20 Message #4738902
That seems a very sad comment to make, especially considering many people probably don't contribute to threads because all they see is argument and unfriendliness. The thread to me seemed a reasonable topic for discussion.
Male
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 18-Apr-2019 09:25 Message #4738903
Just saying how I see it Terry, the lady says she will never get a date then goes on to talk about two recent dates she has had...
Female
Lainiepops  Female  Hampshire 18-Apr-2019 10:24 Message #4738906
Maybe I shouldnt have said ‘recently’ lol

Or maybe i should have titled it “why I’m not bothering with dating any more”

Hidey hole is very cosy. Ive got a kettle and everything!!

Tea anyone??
Male
tumbleweed  Male  Gloucestershire 18-Apr-2019 10:58 Message #4738909
Second one had fslling down trousers

Yuk, you don't want to go on a date with fslling down your trousers!...It sounds disgusting...

Oh, A typo, 'falling' probably...It all sounds so much better now.

Come out of you hidey hole, but beware. You have to be a bit thick skinned to post on these things. Don't let the responses get to you.
Male
OnlineMSE  Male  Essex 18-Apr-2019 11:23 Message #4738913
While I wouldn't go all out for a make over on a first meet I think it's important to make an effort to be presentable, so I would. But each to their own, maybe some people feel more relaxed in their old comfies (almost like a security blanket) going into what could be for them a stressful situation. I've have had a few initial meet ups where the other person clearly hasn't gone to town on how they've turned up. Bovvered !!! I went to meet them not their latest outfit acquisition.
Maybe these guilty men's only faux pas were just wardrobe malfunctions and they didn't realise the meet was a full blown personality, character and attire exam.
While I appreciate that a first impression is a lasting impression we so often hear and read that's it's the personality that counts or don't judge a book by it's cover, and other related flim flam.
But hey! if that that tick box is so important then so be it. Again, each to their own.
Male
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 18-Apr-2019 20:50 Message #4738938
Back to more important things...

"Tea anyone"

Yes please, watery weak, tiny splash of milk and no sugar thanks.
Female
Lainiepops  Female  Hampshire 20-Apr-2019 19:46 Message #4739016
lol Nigel. my cousin has hers almost the same.
she likes her tea so weak you have to wonder if she'd notice there had been a teabag near it at all lol and more.water than tea and more milk than water!
Male
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 22-Apr-2019 06:55 Message #4739044
We should all be judged by our teabags.
Female
Lainiepops  Female  Hampshire 23-Apr-2019 21:09 Message #4739126
I’m a Tetley girl.


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