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dont try so hard

capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 11:04 Message #4675955
dont try so hard to find the perfect partner, just be with someone who knows how lucky they are when they are with you, :)

what you say ?
Eschifer  Female  Cheshire 3-Feb-2017 11:36 Message #4675967
My dog is fully aware how lucky she is have me and I know how lucky I am to have her.

She is my perfect partner.
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire 3-Feb-2017 13:45 Message #4675978
To be with someone just because they know they are lucky to be with me is a no no.

Yea i do think that whoever is with me is lucky and would not work just for that reason. I would want to feel something
for the person i am with not because 'HE' thinks so.
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 14:43 Message #4675981
or you could be like me and not try at all. I'm virtually a recluse, apart from work.
tsunamiwarrior  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 15:12 Message #4675985
Are guys like buses? You wait for ages then several come along together?
joolsy  Female  Essex 3-Feb-2017 15:38 Message #4675995
Erm perfect nah ... I'm not perfect so just someone who I can laugh .. And love with suits me lol ...
capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 17:32 Message #4676011
i agree schifer theres a strong love between some owners and thier pets ;)
capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 17:37 Message #4676013
you lost me there yaffa,lol

i thought men were like buses cause one comes every 15 minutes,lol?
leogirl  Female  Essex 3-Feb-2017 19:03 Message #4676043
Wendy Cope : bloody men are like bloody busses...
Take it from me they are !

wholelottakaren  Female  Lincolnshire 3-Feb-2017 19:06 Message #4676046
I am clearly not on a bus route
capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 19:06 Message #4676047
hi leo, did you used to work on the buses?lol
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 3-Feb-2017 19:08 Message #4676049
Men are like buses because theres none for ages and then three come along at once.
capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 19:11 Message #4676051
lilley was a bit like a bus,i waited ages to see her, then find out 48 other people in the local area have been riding on
leogirl  Female  Essex 3-Feb-2017 19:16 Message #4676056
no, I took a course in British poetry !

capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 19:18 Message #4676057
i hope that all went well for you leo?
leogirl  Female  Essex 3-Feb-2017 19:24 Message #4676061
for the uninformed

Bloody men are like bloody busses
You wait for about a year
And as soon as one approaches your stop
Two or three others appear.

You look at them flashing their indicators
offering you a ride
you are trying to read their destinations
you haven`t got time to decide.

If you make a mistake, there is no turning back
Jump off, and you will stand there and gaze
While the cars and the taxis and lorries go by
And the minutes, the hours, the days.

Tanks to Wendy Cope for wise lesson
capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire 3-Feb-2017 19:34 Message #4676064
thats excellent leo, im well uninformed,lol

thanks for sharing it, :)
Jeff  Male  East Sussex 3-Feb-2017 21:02 Message #4676085
I used to be told that the reason that I couldn't find a girlfriend was that I was trying too hard. But even when I didn't try, no girlfriend came. (By chance I have one now.)

In an unrealistic situation where you know the number of people whom logically you will consider to become your "best" partner, what is the mathematically optimal stage that you should stop looking for a "better" person? (Similarly various other applications such as choosing the best secretary (look up "secretary problem"), or which daughter of a sultan has the biggest dowry, or the best pet, or the best bus driver if many buses go along a route together and you can often change buses during the journey.) This applies however you want to define "best".

The answer is in thread "How To Marry The Right Girl A Mathematical Solution"

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