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V Day cards

to sign or not to sign

Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 15-Jan-2017 17:24 Message #4673570
So, following on from Miss Polly Postie's thread, should one sign one's Valentine's cards, or not?

Is that not part of the fun to create a little mystery and keep them guessing?

And what if you sign it and they don't feel the same; is that embarrassing?
RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 15-Jan-2017 18:00 Message #4673572
Unless you want to remain a secret admirer then the card must at least provide a clue to your identity.
AndyMacG  Male  the West Midlands 15-Jan-2017 18:05 Message #4673574
I'll give you a clue ... if i send a card/s i always leave a clue for the recipient/s otherwise what would be the point and rejection, well, being used to that it doesn't bother me in the slightest :)

Andy Mac
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 15-Jan-2017 18:36 Message #4673585
If I was sending a card to someone I was already building a friendship with and felt we were both wanting more then I probably wouldn't sign it, but leave clues that hopefully she would get - if it was to a stranger as an ice breaker then I think it would be pointless not to sign it...
badman  Male  Suffolk 15-Jan-2017 18:36 Message #4673586
I'm pretty sure my lady will guess who it's from.
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire 15-Jan-2017 19:46 Message #4673608
Not had a valentine's card for yonks .
Blue-Poppy  Female  East Yorkshire 15-Jan-2017 20:58 Message #4673625
Once many years ago I sent out eight cards - all unsigned - but I gave them to a delivery driver to take to another branch of the firm up in Newcastle, where I had already arranged with a member of staff to post them.

All the recipients were pretty puzzled at the postmark and only one cottoned on it was me.

The following year I repeated this but had them sent from Edinburgh. It was a laugh but I like to think gave the recipients enjoyment, flattery and something to puzzle about.
vanman  Male  Cambridgeshire 15-Jan-2017 21:53 Message #4673628
Good heavens is it that time of year already!? hardly seems long since the last one!

Course I would sign it, don't want anyone saving it and sending it to someone else next year! lol.
bella111  Female  Devon 15-Jan-2017 22:05 Message #4673629
I have at least one a year for a few years only one on successive years have I known who, the clues have gone right over my head... So if anyone is going to send me one make it obvious (cough..cough)
Bewildered  Female  Norfolk 15-Jan-2017 22:22 Message #4673630
I dont see the point if you have no idea who its from.

Best to give a clue I think.

As Valentines is a bit of fun if the recipient doesnt feel the same its really a big deal.
BUT if they do it could be a way of breaking the ice and getting a clue if the person would be interested in further communication etc. :-)
Bewildered  Female  Norfolk 15-Jan-2017 22:41 Message #4673633
not a big deal is what I meant
GentleFella  Male  Buckinghamshire 15-Jan-2017 22:54 Message #4673634
Yes agree with others there must be a clue as to the sender
I still have cards from previous years and have no idea who sent them despite lots of "deer stalker and pipe" work
PollyValentiniusPoppy  Female  Worcestershire 16-Jan-2017 00:42 Message #4673645
I guess it's up to the individual concerned and the reason for sending the card in the first place. I consider if you send a card to someone you really fancy and hope to get to know much better, why waste the perfect opportunity.

I'd kick myself if I missed the chance to at least meet the bloke I fancied because I was too coy/scared/uncertain to at least give a massive clue.

Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 16-Jan-2017 08:15 Message #4673657
So when the lucky chap gets his card, should I write with love from miss minx inside then? : - )))

wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 16-Jan-2017 12:22 Message #4673702
I think the last time I got an anonymous valentines card must of been at school, it was one of the favourite tricks of bullies to send someone like me a valentines card and then watch and laugh as you thought someone actually liked you.

Valentines is one of those minefields for Aspergers people, its one I tend to avoid, I'd far rather ask or be asked a straight questions get or give a straight answer and not have all this mucking about.
The_Snow_Covered_Fool  Male  Cheshire 16-Jan-2017 13:37 Message #4673717
I never have a clue who's sent me unsigned ones ! even some with clues in them.

Bewildered  Female  Norfolk 16-Jan-2017 14:59 Message #4673723
I think the Valentine post is a fab idea.

Dont take it to seriously though. Someone has gone to the bother of sending you a card I think it is lovely. BUT I do think a clue is necessary other wise what a waste.

Its a great way to break the ice .

keep up the good work Polly x
PollyValentiniusPoppy  Female  Worcestershire 16-Jan-2017 15:16 Message #4673725
The choice of wording is yours, Minxie, as is the option to remain anonymous, should you so desire.

However, I'm of the opinion that unless you're sending it on a friendship-only level (which is what a number of MSE people have done over the years - myself included), you should make your intentions clear to the recipient by at least giving a big clue.

I guess there's many an old bint/fella gathering dust on life's shelf who wishes they'd grabbed an opportunity when it presented itself.

Cupid's Postie
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire 18-Jan-2017 08:18 Message #4673952
My son at the tine was 12 yrs old when he bought me this pin brooch with a lilac silk flower and wore it on one

of my coats for years. Then i bought a new coat a couple of years ago and pinned it on the lapel and it came off.

Was very upset. Cause he was the only person to give me something on Valentine's day x
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire 18-Jan-2017 08:39 Message #4673956
its ok to receive a Valentine's Card from someone that you may be interested in , but to receive a card from a person

you are not interested in is disappointing and could ruin the day! x
Wry  Male  Norfolk 18-Jan-2017 11:11 Message #4673975
You haven't lost the memory of that lilac flower brooch, Yaffa. What a lovely present it was, and still is. And let's hope Mr Right read the message about the card too. Have you let him know you're interested?
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire 18-Jan-2017 12:21 Message #4673994
Have not got anyone!

You read the thread wrong.
Templar2013  Male  South East London 18-Jan-2017 13:05 Message #4674001
Receiving a mystery card does add abit of intrigue but I think most of us want to know who sent them.
Why Yaffa, would receiving a card from someone you are not interested in ruin the day? If someone fancies me but I dont fancy them I am still flattered.
bella111  Female  Devon 18-Jan-2017 13:08 Message #4674003
I was going to say the same thing templar it would still bring a smile to my face and it is a feel good factor.
Wry  Male  Norfolk 18-Jan-2017 13:54 Message #4674007
Yaffa. I read the thread (see, I can rhyme too) in which you said, "Glad i did as now in conversation with somebody nice." And hence I gave you my advice.

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