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Dating Site Shock

Is this Agism ?

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life2701  Female  West Yorkshire 4-Dec-2016 07:36 Message #4668280
In my early mid thirties I signed up to a popular free dating site overwhelmed but not flattered by the amount of tedious boring messages of interest and decided not to catch any fish and return to the real world

Ive now attempted to try my luck again second time around at the age of 39 years of age.

Very little traffic compared to previous years was confused to why

reduced my age to 36 now the traffic is back to what I was used to previously.

This is rather concerning ...have I now reached an age whereby I have to be dishonest about my age to receive a larger pool of interest.

Is this the reason people lie about their ages ? always wondered why !

Once a lady reaches 40 via a dating site are we left on the shelf and have a smaller pool of interest from the male population in the internet world

what are other peoples experiences since hitting the big 40

and there was me thinking life begun at 40

yet my ego has been crushed aha
Tweetie Pie  Female  Oxfordshire 4-Dec-2016 08:23 Message #4668283
I lied once but when someone finds out you are dishonest it is not good so I never lie now. However I am rare in that respect. Try approaching seventy! It gets harder the older you get. I am told I look ten years younger but honesty is the best policy in my opinion.
Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 4-Dec-2016 08:25 Message #4668284
I can't say because I was 40 when I became single again and I was alone for 7 years. tbh, I wasn't making much effort, as I wasn't in a good place to meet someone.
Then I joined MSE and met someone that I was with for 10 years. We split last year and I am positively ancient now, by your calculation. Since then I have been concentrating on getting a social life and I have no shortage of male friends. Just waiting for some romance to develop.
Argonaut  Male  Lancashire 4-Dec-2016 09:08 Message #4668288
It probably is ageism - 'cos there's no legislation regarding people's preferences.

You'll just have to learn to grow old gracefully like the majority of people who have passed a certain age barrier.

Complaining ain't gonna change nothing tho' the responses you may get may help to clarify reality for you.

The best you can do is to be honest, show your best side - and hope!

Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 4-Dec-2016 09:13 Message #4668289
I prefer to grow old disgracefully.
Argonaut  Male  Lancashire 4-Dec-2016 09:18 Message #4668292
I can well see you being very successful in that venture Minnie!

Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 4-Dec-2016 09:21 Message #4668293
I do hope so.
Aely  Female  Hampshire 4-Dec-2016 20:19 Message #4668375
MAybe it is a problem on dating sites. Do readers assume that everybody knocks a few years off and assume 30 means 45 perhaps? Not that one is past it at 45 of course.

40 for me was so long ago the inernet hadn't been invented.
brisinger  Male  Lancashire 4-Dec-2016 22:12 Message #4668379
I think that I end up growing old disgracefully in a lot of people's eyes because I don't give a damn about age...
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 4-Dec-2016 22:33 Message #4668380
Actually Aely, I take what people say about their age at face value...I can be cynical with many things but I prefer to think people are being honest until they show they aren't.
RoseyCheeks  Female  Nottinghamshire 5-Dec-2016 23:02 Message #4668470
Could just be a younger demographic using the site? But I suspect it's deluded old men thinking they can be someone's sugar daddy...
HotOrWot  Male  Lancashire 2-Jan-2017 16:05 Message #4671398
You dont have much luck with the ladies the Samuel. You'll be safe on this site they are all friendly :)
johnlock  Male  Essex 2-Jan-2017 16:09 Message #4671399
Samuel: I can assure you that no young females are gravitating in my direction!

Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 2-Jan-2017 17:49 Message #4671410
What a very sad outlook Samuel.

Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 2-Jan-2017 17:52 Message #4671411
lol I bet all those young females are thinking ... I dunno what it is about all these old blokes, keep gravitating towards us young women, dirty buggers, they're only after my nubile body. Once they've had their wicked way, I'm dumped.
wholelottakaren  Female  Lincolnshire 2-Jan-2017 19:41 Message #4671427
Is it really age? I dont know any more.
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 3-Jan-2017 02:19 Message #4671461
Samuel..."you are right its the norm for these sites to have everybody being dishonest about their intentions and its more than just their age"

It certainly hasn't been my experience! I still consider it a sad attitude to make such generalisations.
Wry  Male  Norfolk 3-Jan-2017 02:30 Message #4671463
digital v. analogue

our ages are digital, but we are analogue. We all age at different rates and have good days and bad days.

pictures are analogue at gallery level (not pixel level). We don't look through our photos and pick the ones that represents us most honestly, we choose the ones that make us look good (or as near as).

So, if your age is absolutely accurate on your profile, is your picture as honest?
johntf  Male  Lancashire 16-Jan-2017 22:59 Message #4673784
I think it gets harder trying to find someone as you get older but would not lie about my age which is fifty seven years old.
If someone is interested in me i am glad about it and though i get complemented that i look younger and have a younger outlook on life no how old i am.
lucyjordan  Female  Tyne and Wear 17-Jan-2017 10:33 Message #4673836
I didnt become single until i was 57.

When i decided to go down the dating site route, i had no problem in finding men who were interested in getting to know me,

The majority of those who contacted me, were younger men, but i prefer those around my own age, or a few years younger, not 20 or 30 as some were.

I have never lied about my age, cant see the point, but ive met quite a few blokes who have, (if they werent lying then they must have had hard paper rounds), but really, for me, the fact that if they were so insecure about something as minor as age, then i wasnt prepared to be their support when it came to other insecurities that they would most likely have, in the haversack of baggage they lugged around
GentleFella  Male  Buckinghamshire 17-Jan-2017 11:17 Message #4673840
In my experience many ladies knowingly deceive either in term of age stated. their body description or the type of snaps they select to display.
I have never understood as the truth always emerges at the first meet often resulting in disappointment for both
I have always tried to make everything known before hand as I would never want anyone to ever say again, Yes again, " if i knew that i would never have met"
londonlee  Male  Buckinghamshire 17-Jan-2017 12:51 Message #4673854
I did have a hard paper round and looked old for my age during my teens and 20s which I quite liked. Since passing my 50s most people I meet think I look my actual age and I'm very happy with that. I don't understand those who lie as its of no consequence to anyone but ourselves.
As lucyjordan says it shows insecurities.
The_Snow_Covered_Fool  Male  Cheshire 17-Jan-2017 13:21 Message #4673857
Another one with an hard paper round here. :-)

Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 17-Jan-2017 18:30 Message #4673898
Don't do yourself down, snowy.
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 17-Jan-2017 19:48 Message #4673908
You reduced your age by a mere 3 years and it made that much difference? Really?!!
What age are the blokes showing interest? Are they those fabled dirty old men?...

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