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Hi All
So, what can I and any other newcomers expect from this here DATING SITE - (REMEMBER!!!) on Valentine's Day?
Can we expect our inboxes to be brimmin over with romantic PMs; invitations to a Meet involving just TWO people; requests for email addresses so that cyber cards/flowers can be sent?
I know you all appear to be blase about the whole dating thing BUT I think it's all a ploy, beneath the cool facade, there MUST be some passionate under-currents!
Polly
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There's usually a Valantines thread put up by one of the Site's well known trustworthy members whereby you're given the opportunity to send a REAL card to someone on the Site that you either fancy or perhaps just admire...
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It's rocking now, can't you feel it?
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Really, Paul, a REAL card! Blimey, how exciting!!
Must have a gander through the chaps to suss out a likely candidate for my affections!
Polly
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Well there used to be a Valentines room Poppy. But I believe that was scrapped thru misuse. Not that I ever had any Valentines myself. I 'm pretty sure someone posted on actual valentines cards last year to people who had been willing to give the poster their real name and address. I don't know if anyone will volunteer to be post master/mistress again this year.
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Maybe we could have a dating thread specially for Valentines? We have had several in the past where a volunteer member matched willing daters with others. It was fun, I joined in once and made a good friend.
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ally51
I think making another friend might be reason enough ;)
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To not bother is what I meant
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Hello Maggi Moonwytch (love yer name!)
Well, Valentine's Day should be THE day when people make their move - can't think of a BETTER day.
If no-one else volunteers, I will, why not?!
Hope you get lucky this year Maggi!
Polly
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Thanks, Ally
That's why I started this thread NOW. We have a whole month to get the ball rolling!
Ooohhh, HOW exciting!!!
Come on yer buggers - awake from yer inertia!!
Polly
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Miss P, don't you dare gander at me - I might come over all romantic, which would spoil my Bertie Wooster-style image.
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" So, what can I and any other newcomers expect from this here DATING SITE - (REMEMBER!!!) on Valentine's Day? "
A week or so before lots of shameless 'woe is me' posts about how people don't get hugged or kissed or their profiles viewed any more. Hold-on it's like that most weeks anyway...
TracyA did a thread where you could send a real card to another member, via her which appeared popular (and I imagine took a lot of effort). The flip-side was people then posted for weeks after about the fact they want to know who send an anonymous card (derrr!) if the sender wanted to know their would be a big enough clue/hint inside...
My drinking buddy John still doesn't believe me when I said I’d sent him a card to cheer him up...However who sent him the other 2 is still a mystery...
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"there MUST be some passionate under-currents! "
Probably. I'm sure a lot of folk just don't want to advertise the fact on an open board.
For me, it all passes me by...
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Valentines day maybe a trigger some of us need to 'thaw out' a little. With spring just around the corner and the whole natural world starting to surge back into life, it would seem to be the natural thing to do is, to shake off some of those constrictions we've been harbouring for ages and take a chance. Maybe with a few carefully chosen words, we can melt away some of the barriers that we impose upon ourselves and allow someone to actually make contact, and not just in a cyber situation.
It will be my mission to touch those places that have been hidden away for a long time.
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Ahhh, Badman
Well said, my dear - very eloquent!
My words are ALWAYS very carefully chosen, I have NO self-imposed barriers and consider sites such as this to be a starting point, offering all sorts of possibilities IF we are brave enough to open up our minds/take a chance.
Cyber space is a pretty bleak place - I prefer the real world. Each of us is able to step from our cardboard cutout existence into reality - our only obstacle is ourself!
Good luck on your mission, sir, may you touch lots of hidden places!
Polly
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Okay, Timbo, promise I won't gander at cha! You are perfectly safe!!
Polly
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Hello chocolat
Yeah, well, I for one am an exceedingly private person - should I be lucky enough to find a guy who 'floats my boat' none of you would be any the wiser! Hence my reference to under-currents.
I don't want it all to pass ME by - life is for living - you only have yourself to blame if you prefer to be an observer! I wouldn't be on a dating site if I was content with a solo existence.
Polly
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You get out of this site what you put into it. Prolific posting appears to be a hindrance to dating but I dare say there are exceptions.
The ones who get the most dates allow themselves to take chances and perhaps agree to meet people they don't necessarily like the profile or pic of.
There are fun times to be had even if your date is not Mr. or Ms. Right
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If you dont have a pic and dont post you will not reach anyones radar ..
The dates/meets I have had have been from posting on threads... thus saying a hello etc by pm because of something posted either my me or someone else..
pics are very misleading and as for profiles , its always hard to put down in a few sentences what or who you are...
I rarely read a profile ..
A lot dating / meeting goes on behind the scenes ...
Valentines as with the Xmas pairing off will actually spur one or two to flirt , or pm when they wouldnt normally do so..
I do wish peeps would get passed this online rejection thing though ..!!
If someone not interested so what ... really does it matter...?
If you have never met... never spoken only pm'd ... its not going to hurt you in reality is it !!
Meet , date ., get dumped...then call it rejection...
As said so many times...if you try you wont know...
CG x
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Last year amazingly I received two cards. They were the first cards I had received on V Day since 2005...
Mind you though there are one or two depression threads lol lol lol..
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Well there you go, pm sent, just have to wait for a reply "HA" trouble is ive absolutely no idea of the last time she used this site, I,m hoping she gets a pm alert in her email.
Fingers crossed. :o)
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"I don't want it all to pass ME by - life is for living - you only have yourself to blame if you prefer to be an observer! I wouldn't be on a dating site if I was content with a solo existence."
What I meant was the blokes pass me by on this site, probably of the way I project myself as being an ice maiden, so no wonder, eh?
I'm not really bothered, to be honest ,as there is no one that 'floats my boat' here at present which is why I'm only here to chat.
If someone did catch my eye I would let them know.
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Hello FineFella
You are correct, as in all other avenues of life, he/she who don't sow seeds, don't get a harvest! If you're gonna be on any kind of social site you need to get noticed - guess that's the idea of the Conversations.
I think the majority of us behave as we would in a real-time scenario - outside cyber PollyPoppy is not known for being a wallflower - hence, my contributions to the threads.
I'm all for taking a chance - being a totally impulsive creature(!), however, a person's profile would have to appeal to me. Likewise, if I was looking to buy a house, I'd only view the one's I could envisage myself living in.
There certainly is a whole lotta fun to be had - loadsa mates to be made - each contact should be evaluated on on individual basis. If we happen to strike gold and meet the guy/girl of our dreams - high fives all round!!
Cheers.
Polly
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Well said, Classygirl - I second THAT emotion!
Polly
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Hello TC
There you go then - TWO Valentine's cards - that must have raised your blood pressure a little!
Talk of depression is BANNED from this thread, dear, instead you must consider to whom you are gonna send a Valentine's card this year.
Polly
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