The_Alchemist (49) from Dorset

Often described as a "pretty nice chap", loving, kind & sensitive. Ok so I know that is rare in a man, but as most of my friends are female I will just have to trust what they say about me. I have on occassion been likened to a white knight - no shining armour, just a good guy who helps out. I like to think I have a positive, up beat take on life, happy to experience new things and that I am open and honest with a commitment to continuing personal and spiritual development. More recently, I've been described as a Wizard or Alchemist - effecting changes, usually in myself and often in other people.

Some people create happiness wherever they go - other create happiness whenever they go.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not in just some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson in Return to Love

Go on, Amaze yourself.

Let me be clear, even though I am single (divorced 8 years, with 2 grown up kids) and would like to be in that special relationship, I am quite happy with the idea of waiting until I find the right lady to be with. If you think that we could be friends, then please get in touch - and who knows, you might just be the lady that I don't want to be without.


However, what follows below will give you an outline of what is important to me about relationships.

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I’m not exactly sure what I’m looking for but I know that like any man I can be attracted by initial appearances. I do however look beyond the superficial, and hopefully I will find someone who can receive as well as give, is intelligent (which is not the same as having a mountain of certificates), can have serious conversations as well as light hearted humour, is spiritual but without religious dogma, can stand up for herself but likes to be supported as well as being supporting. But of course the most important thing is that you are prepared to build a mutual loving, caring, understanding and committed relationship and not expect to find your ‘soul mate’ or ‘twin flame’ in a blinding flash, as such relationships are built over time, very rarely occuring instantaneously. Such is the way of the Universe when initial connections are made; you have to do your part in creating the abundance destined to come your way.

A very long time ago I realised that there was no such thing as a perfect match. So unlike Mary Poppins, you don't have to be absolutely perfect in every way, just a good mix of reasonably lovely in many of them.

Ok, so this is probably a bit heavy for this site, but as I'm not interested in footie and have never seen a whole episode of Eastenders (living there was enough), I'm clearly not your typical bloke. If you make it to the end of this profile and are still interested, and preferably live not too far away, then please drop me a note.

For now I’m happy to just make new friends, but if the right lady comes along, then we will both know it. If you think you might be her, then please live locally as I have many commitments and getting away is often tricky.

Travelling to meet new people is fine and I do it when I can, but to maintain a serious long term relationship - for me at least - means under an hour's drive if we're to meet up regularly.