Paul Allen (42) from Hertfordshire

How did I get here?

I was heading down the road that inevitably leads to the sound of wedding bells but although we knew our relationship had a lot of the right ingredients there was some X factor that was missing for us. So rather than continue forever but never not quite getting, Wishing each other all the luck in the world we brought an end to our journey so we could find that missing ingredient elsewhere.

I found myself with a life that I'd not had before. Whilst I hadn't been looking it seemed that the planet had been invaded by this alien race called The couples.

These couples favour their own kind. they don't mix so well with the singletons. Before the invasion of the couples the weekend was almost obligatory single friends going out to party have fun meet someone but since the invasion it has all changed to a dinner parties of people that you already know.

So life on Planet Earth has changed. Major decision change planet or change strategy??? Ok the space ship is in dry dock at the moment so I'll change strategy for a while and see how that goes. Ok first step www!!! Online dating!

So here I am and there's you reading me. Thanks for taking the time by the way I can't promise you the x factor I can though assure you that the act of subscribing to an online dating service didn’t instantaneously remove all the good qualities that I have in the non cyber world in fact I seem to have stayed remarkably the same as I was before the transaction - Phew that was a relief.

So about me. I guess I work a little to hard but that's so that I can play harder or longer too. I have (putting modesty aside for the moment) most of the qualities that I read are important. I am tall with blue eyes reasonably fit with great sense of humour totally honest ambitious, great listener, understand, interesting, can move a little on the dance floor, walk by the canal, dance in the club, burn food, talk forever and listen longer. I don't do pretence, play games, deal in bull'


What stands out about me. When people meet me they very soon realise that I am the real thing from the outset very open really like to help people out where I can. Hate people who like to make other people feel embarrassed or chip at their self esteem (i.e. bullies) Truly like to help people and have plans for doing just that on a large scale in 2/3 years

I live 60 seconds from the M1 / M25 it amazes me that although I have exchanged the congestion etc of city life for the greener less cluttered and frenetic life of Hertfordshire
I can still be in the centre of London in the time it takes to have a coffee.

Nice things people have said to me: You can be anything but one thing you can never be is boring. You are the most passionate guy I know. Without people who try like you there wouldn’t be any millionaires. I wish I had a mind like yours. You're an awesome dancer (From a guy???) You should write a book about your life. If anyone deserves to be happy and successful it is you.

So if you fancy letting me know a bit about you it would be great. You never know we too may become one of those couples.

Well here's to thinking of a lazy Sunday morning in crisp white sheets with the sun peeking through the window as we realise the singleton world has been left behind

Someone who wants to make the most of what life has to offer
:-)