Update I'm in a relationship at the moment and only come here to converse. Although I love to be chased I don't think that would be fair on you but if all you're after is another friend feel free to make contact. :)
Caveat lector
---------I am.....
Warm, approachable and understanding mother of an eight yr old boy.
Deep, loving and spiritual (in a HUMANIST way pretty atheist leaning too).
Proud but not obsessive over appearance (simple is my motto - I haven't got the talent or the time to keep up with fashion or stand in front of a mirror).
Confident but not looking for spotlights - I've got enough self-obsessions.
Very intelligent.
I live a bit inside my own mind where I analyse problems, identify patterns and I sooooo hate it when I can't come up with an explanation.
I like clarity in everything and everybody and I strive to be clear myself (not always successfully, I must admit).
I love to learn, I'm extremely curious and life and the world could never be boring to me because of that (even if the world sometimes pales in comparison to what I think of it). I could maybe even add that, despite all, I'm a bit of a dreamer.
I'm tolerant and flexible but I take a very rigid stance if one of my values has been violated or challenged.
My optimism will go on regardless of disappointments though and I manage to maintain faith in humankind regardless of how well I get to know it (or maybe because of it).
I'm undemanding as far as the practicalities of life are concerned (you won't have me mentioning the toilet lid! I've got more important things on my mind!). I like simplicity.
I hate leading or controlling people but I'm not a follower either.
I can be very shy when meeting new people but none of my friends quite believes that because, around them, I'm as gregarious and self-confident as I can be.
I don't have many friends but the ones I have are very close and highly valued and held in great esteem and with great affection. I'm afraid I've never been very good and soon lost interest in "doing popular".
I'm quite arrogant too (oh no, I blew it now!) ooh and cynical and sceptical!
I'm independent, quite unconventional and somewhat original. I'm a bit of an eccentric. Quite complex too (who isn't?).
People think me extremely flirty until they realise I mostly love flirting with... myself and my own thoughts.
I've got both a feminist streak and a feminine one (hard to juggle at times I must say but I relish the challenge all the same) and my feminine ego loves to win that particular game;
I'm pretty laid back and easy-going (even though quite pedantic with my spelling and grammar - don't worry, it's a fatal flaw, one not very easy to live with and I won't be demanding the same of you).
--------------I love.....
To talk... Talk to me. I've yet to find better préludes to foreplay or better afterplay moments ;-)
To learn... Most things I do, I do because I'm insatiable in that respect.
Reading about human beings and their qualities, quirks and misgivings - individual or collective. The latest is a novel by someone I started reading around my thirteenth year of age - José Saramago. He hardly uses paragraphs... a fascinating feature of his books. This particular book is about a government that goes beserk when 83% of the population decide to vote... "blank"... a fascinating word in its own right.
Listening to music, of which r&b, soul, and.... JAZZ (even the sound of this word...) are favourites. Not that I'm some sort of Jazz freak - my media library is actually quite varied and I discuss my music tastes on several online venues like download sites or music recommendation sites like Last.FM or Pandora. I pick friends brains on a lot of styles and new artists, I love to explore that which is very arrogantly is called "World music", in the Western world.
Radio is preferred to TV and I do both online. I have a passion for both BBC7 and R4 and I regularly listen to stream originating from abroad. I chucked the TV and most of what I watch is, again streamed or downloaded namely the news (if, when I can be bothered) docs or those quirky American series usually featuring something of a misanthrope of a main character (but also brilliant in their field of activity) - House MD, Monk, Boston Legal, Shark, Bones are examples of a style you probably have, by now, identified. In any case, and just like with music, I'll need a recommendation of those whose opinions I respect for some reason or other. Please don't think I'd ask you to get rid of your TV though. I only dismissed mine because I started using it as relief to a tired mind.
Cinema. If there is something I'd love to do more is going to the movies. It still feels as it did when I was child but, of course, the film type has changed a bit and the venues are so boring and crammed and stifling and... cushy. I like surreal movies like those of Felini (even if they are so terribly rare to watch nowadays);
Favourite outings include anything that doesn't paralyse the brain and can be meaningfully discussed during or afterwards - an obscure but talented band playing live in a bar, a good film, a good play, a museum or an art gallery, a steam train (oh, how I love steam trains), or coffee in a busy place whilst watching people going past and conjecturing/predicting/musing at their activity(ies) (I particularly love to do this with my son).
Speaking of whom - My son. We form a very unconventional family in more ways than one and life is easier because of that. We go to art galleries and we mock modern art ("Mum! Someone ripped this canvas"), we jump together on puddles (on my high heels, is particularly interesting), and we philosophise together ("Mum! There's really no big and small, is there?", "What do you mean?", "Well... You're taller than me, and I am taller than this chair, but ants think I'm a giant!", "Wow! What a profound thing to say! True too!", "Mum!", "Yes!", "What does profound mean!" - Ain't he wonderful?) We tell each other stories. He is a bit of a little me (spelling pedanticism an'all) and he shapes me quite a lot too. We cook together and we talk to each other at the dinner table about the woes of the day as well as of the joys (I love his optimism and his criticism of me, even if grrrrr, sometimes....)
Travelling is a joy because, well I'm so curious, but chances are I'm not going to be able to handle a beach resort catering for my needs in such a way as to make one too lazy to explore the world outside it.
Take me dancing, not raving (excuse the pun) although chances are my self-conscious bit will reign it in a bit outside. I dance all the time at home (I think that is why I've never had to go on a diet)
Wine bars or other places where I can have and hold a conversation without hurting my throat. A simple walk can be so soothing to the mind.
Wine (preferably red) and dine, I sooooooo love food. You'll often find me wildly tucking in some Mediterranean style olive bread and roasted vegetable houmous and a few slices of tomato or cucumber (or both).
Coffee or chocolate (both together, even better!!)
-----------I'm looking to......
Go on little big adventures;
Anticipate, savour and reminisce about as many moments as I possibly can from this, the only life I envisage I'll ever have;
Grow within myself;
* Fall in love... miserably, hopelessly, utterly and childishly with some guy who's probably far removed from what is so extensively described on this page;
*Have him, whom I might meet Sunday, Monday or Tuesday, feel the same.
"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfilment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May
You are...
Well..
You've read the "Me" bit and you smiled at times.
You probably thought "stuck up cow" - but your opinion of me softened as you read along.
You identify a bit with that (or maybe not)!
A sense of humour would be appreciated but please do not try too hard it's not that important and I quite like serious too.
"My twin chatterbox" would probably be something you'd be prone to call me :-).
Someone who doesn't describe himself as "mad", "crazy" or "bonkers" but will be quite capable of being all of those at times.
A degree of depth is required as I find the lack of it deeply boring and patience trying.
You'll give me a good enough reason for me to respond to a message of yours. That reason could be on your profile or you could include it on your first message to me but... You do understand why "Hi! Wanna chat?" doesn't quite cut it.
You'll have your own interests and passions which I might share, appreciate, even take up, from sheer contagion.
You are open minded, considerate.
Your mind is mature but I'm talking of your mind here, not your age. As far as age goes, well... I'm not looking for a sugga daddy... But then I don't like to close my mind to the potential either. Besides I tend to have the wildest crushes on men that tend to be around my mum's age. I'd say 12yrs tops both sides of my age (hmm, hope I don't regret saying this lol) but then who knows?... I'd sort of prefer not to know so my judgement is not clouded. Although it springs to my mind that I love to surpass barriers so if you're a wild 18 yr old with "panache" and a penchant for the 30 something woman...
You are taller than me because my feminine streak likes that; but you can also be shorter than me providing you enjoy the challenge and you carry yourself tall (if you get my meaning). By the way, I'm exactly 1.74m and I wear high heels every now and then so add that too and if you have misgivings about a taller woman get over them before asking me out or just don't ask me out at all;
Erm... Taller or shorter than myself...
You're required to be confident, even a bit arrogant though aware of that and forever musing over it whilst trying to curb the excess - I do that all of the time) but you're also tolerant and forgiving of your fellow mortals' "misgivings".
You're not scared of life and you're definitely not intimidated by an intelligent woman. In fact, you'll enjoy the challenge, but not in a childishly competitive way (I've already got that to curb ;)).
You've got balls mainly because you'll need them to "handle" someone who is extremely passionate and intense - sexually, emotionally, physically, intellectually and spiritually - Gosh, I do hope that is not a tall order. Can I keep on dreaming?
You understand that I have a son and that he is part integral of my life. I'm not looking for a father for him but it would be really fabulous if you and him got along well.
You understand that your existing kids will be welcomed with open arms but if you plan or are unsure about having [more] children (there go lots of 18 yr old men straight out of the window!) then a relationship with me might not be the best course your life should take right now. And NO, I won't change my mind about this. Furthermore, I will feel very cross with you if/when I find that I find that you've decided to set out thinking you'll change my mind on this... and do please beware of thinking you might change your own mind about this. That is how people start on a path to resentment.
You're probably patient because you're not here to waste anybody's time but you agree that, in a meaningful relationship, friendship comes first and loves comes after and, critically, you're serious about what brings you here.
The other thing you'll have to be is very in touch with yourself and what makes you tick because only then will you be able to show me yourself beyond your profession (exception made, of course, to all those lucky to be in love with their own professions. It's a joy to listen to someone passionate about their work!), social status or your bank account. All of those quite superfluous in a relationship with me. Period.
You're not afraid of showing affection.
You are sooo charming and you'll know that flattery will get you everywhere. Okay, I won't be hyperbolic - almost everywhere.
You're thoughtful, warm, tender. You're sensual, playful, tactile. You'll make me turn because you'll know just how to push my buttons to stir my imagination ;)
You're not hoping to do "easy".
You're not afraid that I might see you as an arrogant son of a b*h and you won't hesitate from telling me I'm a pain in the @rse for fear of hurting my feelings (especially as my feelings have acquired the ability of regenerating at such speeds as to allow me to do the next pain in the @rse thing in no time at all) and every so often you'll feel that particular role play will have reversed ;).
Oh! And slippers and DVDs are a given. Mentioning them is... well... Sad.
You're a companion and a "partner in crime".
Maybe you share my curiosity for the world and humankind... after all, your idea of a good read doesn't exactly coincide with page 4 of the Daily Mail and although you'll probably read "Dear Deidre" at the newsagents because.. you can and... it's fun... you sometimes feel, as I do, that you've been neglecting your reading for ages.
You're someone to learn from, admire, respect but somehow you're also humble and hungry to learn yourself.
You're not just looking for someone to grow old with. You're looking for someone to grow FURTHER with.
I want it all and I don't mean, by ANY stretch of my imagination, materially.
You and I will have endless conversations... about everything and nothing at all, but it will all seem highly important at the time... and we'll also have comfortable silences.
And... every now and then, in one of those moments, my eyes will look for you in the room and I'll just wonder in my mind "How, just how? Am I dreaming or did I actually get this lucky?"
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Had I the heavens' embroidered cloths,
Enwrought with golden and silver light,
The blue and the dim and the dark cloths
Of night and light and the half-light,
I would spread the cloths under your feet:
But I, being poor, have only my dreams;
I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.
Yeats