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LoveaSecondTime

LoveaSecondTime (47) from Surrey

About me

Loving, hard-working, creative, untidy and a bit of a boffin. Opinionated but tolerant, cheerful, very kind. I run my own design consultancy and during the week my house is full of colleagues, kids, pets and flowers.

Running your own business takes a lot of commitment, as does being a lone mum. My life is out of balance - it's all work/kids. I'm a widow - he died 2 years ago and I'm only now ready to start again. He was a lovely bloke, but I'm not looking for a duplicate. I'm hoping that you may read this - the man who can become my second true love - or just someone kind and fun to share adult time - to give some room to the sexy, vibrant woman I can be. It may sound weird but I feel as if I've had a very lucky life - how many people find their soulmate? - and I truly believe it can happen again. And in the meantime I'm happy to meet men who want to share good times.

I'm very family-oriented - haven't got a lot of choice, really, as I have an adorable bunch of relatives. And I also have some truly brilliant friends. I get lonely at weekends, though, when it's just me and the kids. My free time goes on family, pub quizzes with the girls and the odd day out seeing National Trust properties or going to the coast. I love scenery, plants and old buildings. I like beach holidays. We went to the Red Sea in February and we're going to Cornwall in August.

I'm *so* middle class and respectable these days, but this is misleading. I was a very wild child indeed (which is why I don't drink anymore, though I'm quite comfortable around the stuff.) I went to Glastonbury when they didn't wear any clothes, and still have a strong streak of the rock chick in me. I used to smoke, including the odd spliff, but have now almost given up. Not the dope, the fags. I'm a bit of mixture, like everyone, I guess. Part middle class mum, part sex-crazed hooligan.

Sexually, I used to be a serious powerhouse but having been faithful for 17 years and lost him through death I suspect I may be a slow starter. Those in need of immediate gratification should try elsewhere. I'm pretty sure I need a relationship first these days.

About you

My ideal partner would be someone kind, funny and practical. Nice rugby playing build. Comfort not speed! I'm pretty tolerant about weight, though. Tall is good (I'm 5'8"). Hair is not important to me. Kind twinkly eyes are.

Not so fussed by looks or money. Solvent, yes. Pots of the stuff, no. More important to want to make the most of life, to have to fun, to move forward.

I have two sons (11 & 13) and would ideally like to meet a man with kids of his own. In my dreams (though this may be pure fantasy so don't take it too seriously) I'd fall in love with a lovely single dad living with his children, we'd sell both houses and move to a big one where we could all be one happy extended family. I'm already a stepmother so I know it can be done.

I can't be too precise about who I'm looking for. After all, I had 17 good years with a man I'd never have chosen on paper. We were so unalike. I'm so fluent both speaking and typing - but he couldn't string a sentence together if we weren't face to face. He just wasn't a words sort of bloke.

I don't go for this idea that couples should be alike. Different is good. Though I think it's important to share core values: fidelity, family, and have similar parenting styles if you're gonna set up home together.

I love capable, reliable blokes. I don't drive yet and am so hopelessly impractical that some have suggested I never try. But I love being driven by a good male driver. In fact I love men doing nearly any physical thing well. Sounds really silly, but it can make me go weak... If you want an effective presentation, a speech written or a logo designed I'm your girl. And I'm a good earner. But fix the dishwasher or cut the hedge? Not in a million years!

LoveaSecondTime is 47 years old and lives in Surrey. She is widowed with two children. She's 5' 8" tall and of heavy build. She's a non-smoker, who never drinks. She is looking for dating and romance.

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