JustLyn (58) from Cheshire

My divorce came through end of 2008 after an amicable split and it took some time to adjust to not being half of a couple, having never been unattached from age 16. I felt it was very important, even though very isolating, to know I could be just me before moving on to anyone else rather than looking for someone else to just fill the gap. From that basis I find friendship is a better grounding than the expectations dating brings. I feel privileged to have met quite a lot of nice people in the same transition who have just enjoyed sharing some time if we have that essential chemistry. I believe it most often grows and we discover it rather than "I'll know it when I see it".

Since then I have explored life a little more and now I have more confidence, though I would rather make a fool of myself on a pair of skates than be seen on a dance floor.

I feel fitter now than in my 30s and 40s. I try to keep up with yoga and do go to the gym and enjoy walking but I am not a fitness freak, I do have some way to go in achieving more stamina as still last up the hills!