angel (41) from Kent

About me

Update (28 Aug 08): Decided that I will not be looking for a date at the moment as too busy with my course which runs for another 2 years - will remain on site should anyone wish to meet on a purely social level.

About me: This is the bit where I'm supposed to make men swoon and go all gushy by describing my (not) model looks and (sometimes) exemplary character. Could be interesting.....

Hmmm, what can I add to a relationship? Apparently (so my friends tell me - no, really they have), I'm honest, reliable, funny, intelligent, sexy, strong, independent and fiercely protective of those I love and care for - that includes my very small but close group of friends. I'm also empathic, sympathetic, understanding and caring which could come in useful once I''m qualified. Oh, I''m also a bit of a worrier (I''m working on that) - but hey, we all have our faults. I'd like to meet someone similar - but preferably not a worrier

I'm tall, have long, straight (un-dyed) hair, hazel eyes and would consider myself an average shape for a woman, ie, I'm curvy, non-bony (and quite strong!) I've never dieted in my life and never will (yes, I am that 1% of the female population) as I enjoy good food in sensible amounts (and besides, it's exercise and not snacking that keeps you fit and healthy, not diets). However, due to a series of injuries over recent years, I am a little heavier and unhealthier than I'd like to be but as things heal I'm exercising more and getting back to where I want to be - the photographs are current though. Unfortunately, I'm not and never have been drop-dead gorgeous but then neither am I exactly miss average looking and I certainly don't look like the back end of a bus. My looks are individual, probably because I'm half Italian and half English (unfortunately I can't speak Italian). I love films, most music and one day hope to have a pet dog and / or cat but it's not feasible at the moment.

I've just turned 40 but I don't consider that a bad thing on the whole. Don't you find it sad that so many people over 30 feel it necessary to say they're "young at heart" or "a youthful 35"- over 30 does not mean you're over the hill, old or past it - with age, hopefully comes wisdom and experience, two things that are underrated in our youth-obsessed culture. What makes a person worthwhile is who they are, what they do (not as in job), what's inside them, their honesty, how they connect with others and ... well, that sort of thing (and thus endeth the soapboxing). I'm happier now than ever I was in my teens, twenties or early thirties and the only thing that's missing now is someone to share that happiness with. Mind you, being pleasing on the eye does help (yes, I know, shallow, but it works both ways). Feel free to discuss this in a polite and constructive way.

If you've read this far.... blimey - you should try Vanity Fair or War and Peace next - lol.

"A soul mate is not perfect, they are just perfect for you".

About you

About you: Looking for someone to socialise with occasionally and, if the right person comes along, perhaps to develop a long term relationship with. I'm a full-time, mature student and am studying for my degree so I don't have much time available at present for socialising although I'd like to keep my options open should someone want to meet up / talk to me (assuming these things work and there's anyone out there who's both interested and interesting).

The following description is for an "ideal" partner (if such a thing exists) so even if you don't think you might fit the bill, please don't be shy. E-mail me if you like the sound of me - I might surprise you. The only absolute is a non-smoker. The other criteria are "preferences" which may be put aside for the right person. To paraphrase a famous quotation, I'd rather not be one of the "they who look for a perfect partner when what they should be looking for is a perfect love"

Looking for an honest, good-reasonable-average looking man (preferably not Frankenstein's Monster meets the ugly stick) with preferably 95% of his own teeth He should have a sense of humour and (please) be of average or above average intelligence, who hasn't got a problem stringing a coherent sentence together (and hopefully isn''t addicted to sport or hooked on soaps or reality shows). This is important as ideas, thoughts and intellectual conversation, debate and communication are important to me. Despite this and appearances to the contrary, however, I'm quite shy until I get to know someone (it wouldn't be possible for me to talk the hind leg off a donkey although I could probably type one off). It would be lovely if the man took care of himself in a "manly" way (ie, showered daily, used deodorant, brushed his teeth twice a day, shaved, looked after his health and dressed nicely but didn''t spend hours primping in front of the mirror or dousing himself in gallons of aftershave). Is that asking too much?

Ideally, because I'm female, I'd like a man to be taller than me, that means OVER 5'8" and preferably over 5'11". Please note, this is an ideal.

Unfortunately, although there are lots of really lovely, caring fathers out there, I'm not one for children (although I love my niece & nephew to bits) so that special one I'm looking for mustn't want children. IDEALLY, they shouldn't have any either as I don't want to become a surrogate mother. Sorrreeeeeeeey. Anyway, to be absolutely truthful, the reason for this is I'd have to come first in any man''s affections as that's what I'd give him - no divided loyalties. Any parent who says his children don't come first is lying or in serious denial. This "no children" is a strong preference and in order to be swayed on this point I'd have to feel that I'd be missing out on my greatest chance at a long term loving relationship. If there's an especially wonderful man out there who thinks I''m worth the challenge but has children BUT who's prepared to fight his corner on this point by convincing me that his having children wouldn't be a problem, then please feel free to sway me with your arguments. I won't promise I can be swayed as I've felt very strongly about this subject since childhood (I refused the rubella jab as I said I wouldn't be having children). Personally I feel I'd be a rubbish mum as I don't have a single maternal bone in my body (babies do not make me go "ah goo goo" more "aarrgghh take it away") but the right man might (only might) change my mind about men who have children already especially if the children have lives of their own. Hope that all made sense....What can I say - life is change - it's the only constant there is and besides, being female it's my prerogative to change my mind if I see fit - lol.

When I say I'd have to come first in someone's affections, it doesn't mean that I want a guy who needs to spend all his time with me or expect me to be with him 24/7 - matching tracksuits are not my thing. A regular girls' or boys' night out with friends, along with a few different hobbies and interests means not living in each other's pockets - individuality and space to breathe is important.

A non smoker is an ABSOLUTE must - not that I have anything against smokers per se (what an adult does to themselves is up to them), but smoke has a definite thing against me and the sight of me coughing my guts up, tears streaming down my face and trying to breath isn't an attractive one - honestly!

Incidentally, I don't like liars, cheats, time wasters, scoundrels and cads and I'm not out to "save" any bad boys. Honesty and trust between people in any kind of relationship are what come first, middle and last.

angel is 41 years old and lives in Kent. She is single with no children. She's 5' 8" tall and of average build. She's a non-smoker, who drinks occasionally. She is looking for friendship.

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