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As good as love ????

Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire
26-Feb-2020 10:56 Message #4771446
I do agree Cassis, that there can be a sexual attraction on one side and not the other.

A few years ago that actually happened to me. ...he was attracted to me sexually but I wasn't, so I went to break it off, however he begged me to remain friends.
As I felt sorry for him , I agreed.

However, it became a little "dark",
He led people to believe it was an intimate relationship, which it wasn't.
He enjoyed the idea of being with me, so he fabricated the whole relationship as he went along.

It got scary in the end.
He "stalked" my family on Facebook...I'm not even on Facebook, but over time you talk about your family, etc by name, and over the months ( which went into about 18)
he gathered information on them.

The police had to get involved in the end, because he messaged my daughter and all hell broke loose.

That's why I'm very cautious now.
I don't want the big love affair etc, I'm not desperate or needy.
Some people feel they must have someone in their lives, rather than be on their own....I'm not in that category.
Platonic is fine by me.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd
26-Feb-2020 11:15 Message #4771447
Topaz that sounds really scarey.
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire
26-Feb-2020 14:57 Message #4771450

Don't worry, trust me, I've had worse
....much worse !!
What is it they say...what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd
26-Feb-2020 18:38 Message #4771460
I've had worse too, but that dosen't make it any less scarey and I'm fed up of having to be strong all the time.
Topaz53  Female  Northamptonshire
26-Feb-2020 22:31 Message #4771475
Yes HEN , I know what you mean.
Sometimes, just sometimes it would be nice for someone else to take the reigns.
Orson  Male  Tayside
26-Mar-2020 19:31 Message #4773817
One always endeavours to show the less sexually attractive side. To avoid a scene at the Turf Accountants.
capnblackbeard  Male  Hertfordshire
2-Oct-2020 11:28 Message #4793812
every good man needs a good women in his life, even if it is just a friend

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