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bella111  Female  Devon 18-Jan-2017 17:31 Message #4674043
Whether it is planned that way, one night stands etc, or it's your fault or their fault, I wouldn't know.

I think that is a little harsh hiero but I think it is best to leave it now as between you it

looks like Cassis is not coming on here for the forseeable future.
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iii  Male  Avon 18-Jan-2017 17:51 Message #4674046
The only thing this thread shows is which women to avoid like the plague.

Talk about walking on eggshells.
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wholelottakaren  Female  Lincolnshire 18-Jan-2017 18:26 Message #4674050
No no no! Why would you say that Mr Fox?

The women on this site are perfectly normal but if you choose to see us as a bunch of viragoes then that will surely be your loss.

I do so hate this assumption that because somebody has a lot of men friends she has a lot of sexual partners. I think you will find that the majority of us are very discerning in our relationships. We are supposed to be adults and we should be able to discuss things in an adult manner without making moral judgements.
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iii  Male  Avon 18-Jan-2017 19:37 Message #4674061
@ wholelottakaren

You misunderstand.

My boycotting of certain females on this thread - and other threads too where females act in an altogether peculiar manner - has nothing to do with have many chaps they have had.

It's more to do with their bratish ways and them resorting to temper tantrums when someone says something they don't agree with.

As a chap of quality I have no wish to walk on eggshells when I date someone so whenever geezers like myself see a little miss precious stomping her feet over a mere comment then we tend to turn away.

Only the most desperate would tolerate such behavior.
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Bewildered  Female  Norfolk 18-Jan-2017 21:27 Message #4674076
Dont leave
Ignore posts that upset you. Most on here you will never meet so it doesnt matter what they say, Not really. YOU know the truth, and those who know you.

I used to let things on line upset or anger me , but life is too short .

Keep posting, keep dating :-))
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Powly  Male  West Yorkshire 18-Jan-2017 21:52 Message #4674081
With Valentines approaching thought I'd check in and see all the loved shared with messages, I came, I read - wow ( turns away and leaves quietly) lol
Valentine's Day I'm having a tumbleweed with a little heart inside ??
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Dustybin  Male  Suffolk 18-Jan-2017 23:04 Message #4674088
As Cassis said 'we know the site is no longer managed - the lunatics have taken over the asylum'

It is such a shame that trolls can come and go as they please. Post what they like and then vote it excellent from their other accounts. Jeez.
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RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 18-Jan-2017 23:08 Message #4674090
I think most if us are thinking the same thing Dustybin. They are deceiving no-one
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tumbleweed  Male  Gloucestershire 19-Jan-2017 01:29 Message #4674096
I can assure everyone that I am not a troll, and that I do not have any alternative id's on here.

Perhaps it is an impression that people get of me, and that is one of the big things, we all form impressions of people, whether we meet them, or read things about them or whatever, and those impressions are sometimes accurate, but sometimes way off the mark.

I have never met Cassis, or even tried to contact her, so the only impression I have is the things I have read on here. I haven't read all the posts she has ever written, but from the ones that I have read, I formed some kind of opinion. Whether any of that opinion is right or wrong, I don't have a clue. It is just an opinion based on some of her posts.

Cassis was asking in her opening post, things like is she dating the wrong type of men, or she said 'Is it me?'

A bit of a loaded question perhaps. A bit like 'Does my bum look big in this?' Perhaps it is best not to answer 'Course it does, you have got a big fat bum'

Anyway, I answered her question, about why she doesn't get valentines presents from her men, the gist of the answer being, from the opinion I had formed, that she seems to move on fairly quickly, and I would be wary of treating someone who moves on quickly, to expensive valentines treats. I think she mentions Niagara Falls as one example of a treat from the past.

I think she was quite upset by the 'one night stand' comment, and she has put me right that she doesn't have one night stands. But I stand by the rest of my post.

A lot of things have been covered by others in this thread. Things like, perhaps don't ask personal questions in an open forum, if you aren't prepared for all the answers.

If people are not happy with any of my posts, then perhaps in future they should block me, so they will not be able to see anymore of them.

If Admin want to have a look, and decide to ban me, then so be it.

Otherwise I will carry on posting from time to time, forming opinions, getting it right sometimes but wrong others, getting told off now and again.

Thank you to anyone who has supported my comments in this thread.

And come back Cassis. I miss hearing about the latest man in your life. Only joking!!! About the man I mean, not about the coming back.
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Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 19-Jan-2017 07:44 Message #4674099
mmm I rather think that Mr Fox is well known by us all. lol
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RAACH84  Female  Buckinghamshire 19-Jan-2017 07:48 Message #4674100
And what is a group of foxes called?
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Minnie-the-Minx  Female  Hertfordshire 19-Jan-2017 08:02 Message #4674101
Anyway, to get back on topic, I love getting Valentine's cards and I love sending them. It's fun. Sometimes I send them to someone that I fancy and some time's it is just because I like someone and want to make them smile.

And last year that was one of the lovely things for me about Polly Postie's thread, is that someone liked me enough to make me smile. Whether or not it was the start of the romance of my life is neither here nor there, I enjoyed the moment. What not to like?

But like, D says, my thoughts are similar. I have been taken out for dinner s couple of times on V Day and whilst it was nice to be treated, I have found it very difficult to relax in a crowded restaurant with all those other romantic couples packed in cheek by jowl. I have never liked busy noisy packed restaurants.

So when I have been in a relationship, I have much preferred to be at home together, cooking a meal together with favourite food and a mutually favourite bottle of wine. Of course, if flowers and/or chocolate arrive as a gift, I would be delighted and I have usually bought a little love token for my loved one.
And if someone wanted to make me feel special at any time of the year, I would enjoy that too.

For me, the special times that I remember are not the grand gesture on a predetermined day, but much more the quiet moments that we spent together, where someone did something spontaneously thoughtful and it's not about expensive gifts, but just about showing that they cared and that I was in their thoughts.

One of the sweetest and nicest days that I spent last year was sharing a picnic from M and S with a charming companion on a riverbank on a warm sunny August day. See, I'm a simple girl, at heart.
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Wry  Male  Norfolk 19-Jan-2017 18:49 Message #4674179
Next time I'm in a relationship I will expect at least a card or equivalent gesture on Valentine's Day... as I've had in all my previous relationships.

There are some things we must have from a relationship, and some things that are mere preferences. It's part of our role to make sure we get what we need, otherwise the relationship is liable to fall apart. It's our bottom line. Our preferences can be negotiated, postponed, sacrificed or whatever.

Is receiving a Valentine's Card or treat one of my must-haves? Yes, I think it is.
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wholelottakaren  Female  Lincolnshire 19-Jan-2017 19:04 Message #4674184
I dont think anybody thinks you are a troll Stu.

You were asked for an opinion and you gave it

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londonlee  Male  Buckinghamshire 19-Jan-2017 19:30 Message #4674195
Spot on. Trolls were very busy but Stu wasn't one of them.
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Santalina  Female  Hampshire 19-Jan-2017 21:08 Message #4674210
I don't think Stu is a troll and I am sure no one else does. A question was asked and he gave his opinion.

Personally I think Valentine's day is hugely overrated. Whilst it's nice to get cards and flowers. If I were in a relationship I would be happy with the kindness and thoughtful gestures throughout the year that are worth so much more than lots of money being spent on me just because it's valentine's day.


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