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Cupid''s Arrow

bella111  Female  Devon 17-Jan-2017 01:37 Message #4673812
Well Steve it is only one man that has back tracked, if my memory has served me right you too have had your probs...So have I.. But I still maintain the posts againgst C were unwarranted and dont derserve comment.

OK LOL I have only cuz I am a girls girl..Not a lesbian but phew I hate to admit a feminist but not the political kind, I just do not like people Male/Female saying things that are not right because of their issues...

OK end of...and dont use that word patronising love...
Cassis  Female  Cambridgeshire 17-Jan-2017 02:00 Message #4673813
Thank you for your support Bella.
This was indeed a totally uncalled for and insidiously nasty response to a thread that was just meant to be a light-hearted conversation starter. Some of us just get bullied on this site for being bright, outgoing, and attractive I guess! I've tried to help inject some life into this site but flogging a dead horse, a mangey fetid dead horse at that, isn't worth the grief. So good luck to you all -I'm going to just stay in the real world. I've closed my account here: in fact I shouldn't be able to add this now. But then we know the site is no longer managed - the lunatics have taken over the asylum.
bella111  Female  Devon 17-Jan-2017 02:49 Message #4673814
Well cassis hope you rethink your decision because it will only leave the relics of a grand ship and I don't think I will be a part of that so hopefully you won't leave. Also so called bully's are not worth you leaving you are better than that, some people's health probs should just make you feel sorry for them not yourself...
Nigel_In_Devon  Male  Devon 17-Jan-2017 05:42 Message #4673816
What Bella says above! Don't let the nasty comments make you leave Cassia. Two fingers up to Stu's comments.

{{{Hugs}}} x
BunnyGirl  Female  Buckinghamshire 17-Jan-2017 06:23 Message #4673819
I closed my account lasy year for a while due to some people that had to be nasty about one of my threads but decided

to return. Glad i did as now in conversation with somebody nice.

I have always dated and married the wrong man but open up your account and stay strong and dont let them get to you.

We are strangers prob not going to meet so hold your head up high and you never know that special person might just be

round the corner.,!
Eljer  Male  North London 17-Jan-2017 12:16 Message #4673848
ide be happy to meet someone around the bend ;)
badman  Male  Suffolk 17-Jan-2017 12:17 Message #4673849
Sorry dude. I'm spoken for.
Eljer  Male  North London 17-Jan-2017 12:19 Message #4673850
OnlineMSE  Male  Essex 17-Jan-2017 12:49 Message #4673853
Cassis 16-Jan-2017 17:02
For you, does it come with wonderful delights on Valentines Day?

When in an LTR personally I hated it and always thought that the whole day was extremely stressful. Definitely for me, possibly for both of us.
You're always so conscious of doing the right thing or what is perceived or expected to be the right thing, that it took any enjoyment away that a spontaneous event would give.
Invariably the tension, especially if you were out at say a restaurant with all the other loved up couples, ended up causing a petty row on more than one occasion.
Far better to treat your special one with small surprise gifts of affection throughout the year, which is how it should be.
joolsy  Female  Essex 17-Jan-2017 13:52 Message #4673859
I aggree with you D ... My friend is always moaning about her lovely husband on Valentine's Day ... Saying he never buys her expensive pressies or such like... She does make cross as she wants for nothing and he loves her dearly ... If you have someone special in your life ... Cherish them .. Love them for them not what they buy you ... My Wilson used to stand at the door on a Friday nite with the remains of a bunch of flowers .. He always made me smile with his bunch of stalks .. I still have them in my little box and treasure them
Wry  Male  Norfolk 17-Jan-2017 14:02 Message #4673860
Perhaps I should try stalking someone on Valentine's Day. People like surprises!
iii  Male  Avon 17-Jan-2017 14:04 Message #4673861
I have often heard females say to me that it's the little things that make the biggest impression.

Unfortunately, they say it after I've just lowered my pants.
Dustybin  Male  Suffolk 17-Jan-2017 14:08 Message #4673862
Isn't it a bit like kids comparing their pressies after Christmas? The lady who receives sixty quid's worth of red roses is not slow to let her friends and family know about her good fortune.
iii  Male  Avon 17-Jan-2017 14:13 Message #4673863
If men are dumb enough to marry such women they deserve all they get.

londonlee  Male  Buckinghamshire 17-Jan-2017 14:22 Message #4673864
*Dunno how some people manage to become so miserable ... I'm always happy :) *

I wrote that post yesterday regarding some of the nasty comments made towards Cassis which I felt were unfair and uncalled for and reading a lot of the posts today I can only reiterate my earlier thoughts.

I have been around many years and seen many a Valentine Day come and go and have always thought of it as a bit of fun.

If I'm in a relationship I might send a card or gift. Of course every day might be special but this particularly day is an opportunity to make a little gesture, or indeed, a big gesture. It doesn't make any other day less important.
Any gesture should be light hearted and fun otherwise what's the point.

I can't recall a single Valentines Day being a problem or a cause for upset even though I have occasionally neglected to send a card.

Maybe I dont take it all seriously enough?
Blue-Poppy  Female  East Yorkshire 17-Jan-2017 18:12 Message #4673895
Just read this thread and I'm sad that this unpleasant baiting s taking place again. This went a long way to the beginning of the possible demise of this site and certainly in reducing the number of members and posters.

It's supposed to be a friendship site, a place to go for a bit of banter, a bit of advice, lots of fun and information ... oh and Jason's stories.

Please Stu don't be unpleasant to Cassis, she's nice lady.

And Cassis please don't stop posting, I enjoy reading your contributions.
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 17-Jan-2017 18:23 Message #4673896
Perhaps the moral of the story is don't ask complete strangers to answer questions about yourself if you aren't prepared to accept all answers...
tumbleweed  Male  Gloucestershire 17-Jan-2017 18:32 Message #4673899
Very well said, Hiero
Victoriana11  Female  Buckinghamshire 17-Jan-2017 20:19 Message #4673914
Valentines day ?? - my partner doesnt even acknowledge my Birthday or Christmas but he makes up for it in so many other ways. I much prefer to be with be him than someone who showers me with flowers, gifts etc whilst covering up his extra marital activities.
londonlee  Male  Buckinghamshire 17-Jan-2017 20:39 Message #4673917
Rofl. Victoriana. That's a new take on Valentine's Day.
wholelottakaren  Female  Lincolnshire 17-Jan-2017 22:48 Message #4673932
I think it is a shame that you feel you should leave Cassis. I am with Bella and Poppy on that one. i am sure that Stu didnt mean any offence - he just answered as he saw it. That's the trouble with the written word - so easy to put our own meanings on what we see, especially when we dont know the person and what makes them tick

I have always found your posts interesting and thought provoking.
Dustybin  Male  Suffolk 17-Jan-2017 23:03 Message #4673934
You wonder how many have chanced their luck and got knocked back.
wonderoushen  Female  Gwynedd 18-Jan-2017 10:51 Message #4673972
What Karen said Cassis, I will miss you if you leave.

I actually agree with Dnumbers, I find the whole thing stressful in the way he described.
AndyMacG  Male  the West Midlands 18-Jan-2017 14:26 Message #4674010
I will also miss your charming personality Cassis and your posts, it's never ceased to amaze me all my life how a guy can chat to as many women as he sees fit and never a harsh word said but a women on the other hand, chat to more than one guy and they are accused of shagging all n sundry :(

Just step back Cassis and let it go, you know you are better than that uncalled for comment :)

In the mean time ...

Cupid, draw back your bow and let your arrow go, straight to my lovers heart for me … ;-) lol

Andy Mac
Hierophant  Male  East Anglia 18-Jan-2017 17:19 Message #4674041
I don't think Stu's post was particularly harsh, nor judgmental and wasn't based purely on the OP being female.
I too, have noticed how often the OP has mentioned a new boyfriend or date in her posts, that is not meant as a judgement or criticism, it is merely an observation.
Most of us on here regularly bemoan the fact we can't find a date and/or partner so reading posts from someone who seems to manage it easier than most, is interesting.
Anyway, that's my take on it, many on here proclaim to be straight talkers - "post and be damned" they say...

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